[Kerlynne]

omg barky, you have me laughing so hard! I think it's cute though that you forgot, only because it means, that you aren't feeling less of a mother to your child that is adopted, than the one that is your biologically. It makes me feel better, reading your post, like others. My concern being that is we do have a biol. child after the adopted one, will it feel different. I'm not so "worried" anymore, after hearing many of you say, there isn't a different feeling, with biol. compared to adopted. I think I too will be an awful pg. women. As much as I want it so bad, I can see how hard my body has reacted to the natural weight gain I have had, and what fertility medication does. So in that way, adoption is a blessing to your body!

[blessed with 2]

I say to go with your feelings. I also would have to agree with others here that I love both my children equally. Personally, I am glad that I was able to get pregnant once and experiance birth. I am also glad that I was not able to get pregnant again, or I never would have pursued adoption. Actually, there were more paths we could have tried medically, but we both felt that adoption was a better option for us. Even for those who try biologically first, there has to be some point where you stop and say, no I want to adopt, some people just find that point at different times. To me, I would have to say adoption is harder, but so worth it!! I love my son with all my heart! I have had friends be surprised that the bond is the same. They talk about the bond that starts during pregnancy. But there is a bond that starts during adoption too. Even before you know who or where your baby is, you are beginning to bond, and after all the work to find him or her, you have such a bond of love already. I agree that they are both wonderful ways, though different to create a family. I belive God guides us to the family we are meant to have. If you feel no desire to get pregnant, it probably isn't for you. We had a strong desire for two kids, we just didn't know that one would be through adoption. As someone else mentioned, we all know people who may be great parents, but definately should not adopt a child. As for anyone else trying to influence you to get pregnant, they need to mind their own business!! Some people just don't understand

[AnnaE]

Hello....I have 2 bio kids who are now grown and we adopted our fosterdaughter. We have also had numerous fosterbabies. For me, there is no difference in the love I have for any of them. It is not necessary to have the biological experience. Its wonderful, but so is a baby you get through fostering or adoption. Honestly and truly there is no difference in what counts. That is, LOVE. AnnaE