[donna v]

tomarrow morning we are having our first visit with our new sons. we get to go to the foster parents house and pick them up and i'm a little nervous. i know i will cry, but i don't want to scare them. it's just so emotional - i told my husband i feel like i am giving birth and seeing them for the first time, except now we'll have an audience. please pray for us !! hopefully, we will bring them home wednesday or thursday(thanksgiving) SO MUCH TO BE THANKFUL FOR! everyone who is waiting, hanging in there. i never thought it would happen and here we are.
donna

[melon161]

Congratulations Donna, how exciting for you!!! Good Luck on not crying. LOL

Stacy

[HappyMomAnna]

I remember this day you are about to face!!!!! WOW! For me it was the same as when I gave birth. I have heard that some of us don't feel the same right away---but, I did......
It was hard at first to meet because I felt like I didn't want to scare the kids and then it was hard because I didn't feel entitled right at first---and felt a little like I still had to step back and let the Foster mother keep being the mother----just for a few more hours.....and one more day.......and one more meeting then they were mine to love!
If I were you I would take a long bubble bath, have fun with the old man and get a good night of sleep! It might be awhile before you feel back to normal again.....enjoyt this night it is the last night before you start the rest of your life MOM!

[ohsweetg]

We got a call from our worker yesterday about a 1 and a half year old. I spoke to his worker today and she didnt give me any more info that mine had already given me. His worker is off next week so no chance of her getting us together next week for a meeting. My worker is however and I am hoping that since they are in the same office we can arrange something with his foster parents. I am sooooooooooo excited...we've been waiting over a year!!!

[amom4life]

Have a wonderful time!!
Judy

[Support2Adopt]

How exciting Donna! Best of luck to you.
JJ

[Support2Adopt]

Originally posted by ohsweetg
We got a call from our worker yesterday about a 1 and a half year old. I spoke to his worker today and she didnt give me any more info that mine had already given me. His worker is off next week so no chance of her getting us together next week for a meeting. My worker is however and I am hoping that since they are in the same office we can arrange something with his foster parents. I am sooooooooooo excited...we've been waiting over a year!!!

Please let us know what happens!
JJ

[donna v]

it went really good. the oldest was standing by the door when we arrived - she said he had been waiting since he got up right there. the little one was wrapped in a towel getting out of the bathtub. i didn't cry, but i still have a smile on my face!! they were absolutely stunning - the most beautiful little faces. we brought toys so they warmed right up. after all day in mcdonald's, walmart toy shopping AGAIN, and the park, the oldest begged to go home with us. we also took our girls and they all hit it off right away. i took 3 rolls of film, which i developed in walmart one hour while we were there. there are no words to describe what i felt that day. i am picking them up in the morning to bring them home for the rest of the week (real world) this time. i kept wondering how this mother let these two go, but i know i will never understand. all i do know is they are ours and i will never let them down.
thanks for your prayers - we are so blessed!!!
donna

[cathy102]

That is great news. So glad you all got along with the kids..Enjoy tomorrow when you pick them up..What a great Thanksgiving you and they will have...

Ohsweetg..Hope this will be your little one..Please let us know how it goes!!! Praying this is the one for you..

Cathy

[Support2Adopt]

Donna,
I can feel your excitement! So glad your meeting went so well and I look forward to hearing how things go when you bring them home for the rest of the week.
JJ

[Mary Ann Bednar]

Congradulations. I hope all is going well. How old are your new kids?
I added a set of twins 9 mon ago. They just turned 5. I knew about my kids 24hr before I picked them up. They were shell shocked and my 2 older girls couldn't understand why these little boys cried and tantrumed for weeks. The worst is over and my boys smiles now reach all the way up to their eyes. We at my house have lots to be Thankful for tomorrow. God Bless.

[ohsweetg]

How do you know when it is the right one? We met the him yesterday and neither my husband or I walked away feeling like it was right. I am not sure what it is. We talked in lenth about it for quite awhile last night and we both feel the same way. We know he was exposed to drugs in utero but everyone is unsure about alcohol. Of course he is developementallly delayed, which isnt much of an issue. But when a child is delayed is it normal for them to be up to six months behind and being that far behind do they usually catch up?
We are not looking for a child who is in perfect physical or mental health but something in our gut just doesnt feel right. I feel really bad cuz I feel like we should've left there all happy and excited and we weren't. I feel awful that we didn't have that feeling. And what do we tell our worker if we arent interested. Do I just say we have a "gut" feeling or what. This was supposed to be soooo much fun and now we are confused about our feelings and I dont know why.

[andrews777]

Originally posted by ohsweetg
But when a child is delayed is it normal for them to be up to six months behind and being that far behind do they usually catch up?

I wouldn't expect him to "catch up." Rather, I would just work with him to not fall further behind.

My oldest daughter was "failure to thrive" early in her life, and ended up repeating kindergarten. While she is a year behind her "age," she is perfectly fine and developing as any teenager will.

I would be cautious proceeding though if both you and your husband are not feeling right about it.

Brad