[Cyrus]

Our baby is due in two weeks and I'd like to get the birthmother a gift. I need some suggestions for a gift. Thanks.

[HappyMomAnna]

Wow--this seems to be something one should really think about.
I have heard some birthmothers being very resentful about the "cheap stuffed bear" they recieved.
So my ideas might be:
1) Sees Candy ( what woman would not want that?)
2) a Beautiful Journal.(she may need it for her grieveing process)
3) If you will be sending letters and pictures: a nice photo albumn.
4) Bubble bath and that sort of thing, especially after child birth!
5) A pretty Robe and night gown.
6) Book store gift card--she can choose the books
7) Stationary supplies
8) a Locket that she can keep a picture of the baby in...maybe engraved---a keepsake for her heart. ( a clip of baby's hair.)
9) A letter from your heart.

....I think the gift should be special to represent how special the gift she is giving to you..... not some stuffed toy she will look at and hate in a few years....

[AMom2Two]

I like the locket idea and so did my daughters bmom. At Christmas, I always send her a new picture just for her locket. She wears it all the time too. She said she keeps it near her heart and at times, when she get's sad, she grasps it and realizes that she didn't lose her daughter, she said it gives her peace. Just make sure, it's not a cheap one

By the way, I hate the stuffed animal idea. Stuffed animals are for kids and it is a CHEAP gift. What can she do with it? How many adults have stuffed animals. I have none and I have no desire to be given one either. I am a woman, not a child. Okay, stepping off my soapbox.

Bye

[MomofKaden]

If you can afford it, and if your child's birthmother would like it, I think the nicest gift is a birthstone from the month your child was born - on a necklace or even earings or whatever. I thought of doing this for our son's bmom, but she doesn't really wear jewelry, so I didn't know if it would be a little wierd, but I still think it is a wonderful idea. I also like the locket idea. And if you are going to send pictures, I like the photo album idea alot too.

Congrats and can't wait to hear when the baby is born!!

[GE_Glows]

How about a piece of family jewlery (ring, pin, neclace...) with her birthstone, the baby's birthstone, and room for any opther children she has later in life o be added??? Just a thought... I'm considering giving my bmom a pin for Christmas with her stone, mine, my sister (raised by bmom) and our baby brother who died days after his birth... just a thought...

[melon161]

I just have to say thank you to stacyone for letting us know about the wovenhearts website. It's awesome! THose baskets are very nice.

thanks Stacyone,

[Jensboys]

I second the WovenHearts gift basket ideas. So many neat ideas and you wouldnt be able to pull all that together yourself.

I liked the different themes ideas ... an "open adoption" basket including phone cards, stamps etc...

Remeber though, that an expectent mother is not a "birthmother" until after she has signed the papers. I am sure Skye (the lady who started wovenhearts) would never want these to be given to a mother, pre-placement.

[HappyMomAnna]

Jensboys--I agree save the gift for the day that you take the baby home.....

[Waddly]

Our birthmom is scheduled for a c-section on Dec. 23rd. We will be giving her a x-mas ornament with December's birthstone

~Waddly

[AMom2Two]

Browntap....

I loved the bracelet idea. What a neat idea!

Staceyone...thanks for the referral to the site. I forgot when I was venting earlier about stuffed animals. Some expectant mothers are teenagers and do still like stuffed animals. I didn't mean to offend anyone.

[Support2Adopt]

Originally posted by AMom2Two
I like the locket idea and so did my daughters bmom. At Christmas, I always send her a new picture just for her locket. She wears it all the time too. She said she keeps it near her heart and at times, when she get's sad, she grasps it and realizes that she didn't lose her daughter, she said it gives her peace. Just make sure, it's not a cheap one

By the way, I hate the stuffed animal idea. Stuffed animals are for kids and it is a CHEAP gift. What can she do with it? How many adults have stuffed animals. I have none and I have no desire to be given one either. I am a woman, not a child. Okay, stepping off my soapbox.

Bye

I'm one of the ones who recommends a stuffed animal and here's why. This was suggested to us by our SW the first time we adopted. She explained how difficult and painful it is for a Birthmother and how once the baby is gone, she will probably cry many tears and if there is no one around to comfort her, at least she could have a nice stuffed animal to hold on to while she cried.
I love the locket idea and how great that she gets new pictures to put in it.
JJ

[AMom2Two]

[b]I'm one of the ones who recommends a stuffed animal and here's why. This was suggested to us by our SW the first time we adopted. She explained how difficult and painful it is for a Birthmother and how once the baby is gone, she will probably cry many tears and if there is no one around to comfort her, at least she could have a nice stuffed animal to hold on to while she cried.

I never thought of it that way, that does make sense. It will give them something to hold on to and cry with and it will be soft. I never looked at it that way. Thank you for explaining the benefits of a stuffed animal. It does sound comforting to be able to hold something. Hugs to you!

[Resseda]

In general, I would have to agree with the stuffed animal idea being...not the best. However, if you have one near you...Build-A-Bear Workshops are veyr cool. It allows the maker to pick the animals stuff it, put little "wishes" in...my niece made me one for my 27th birthday, and it means a lot. You can even make a little story or birth certificate to go with it, get clothes for it, etc. There are a lot of ways to personalize it.

As a gift, though, this coule be the perfect time to get to know the potential bmom better. If you can find out what she likes, what she doesn't (like the jewelry), what colors she likes...not only will you have that for your knowledge for your child, but you will be better able to get her something with real meaning that she will enjoy.

Ress

[wannabeamommy]

I have a charm bracelet that my grandmother gave me as a little girl. Over the years I have collected charms while on vacation that represent the places I have been. I also got a charm for special occasions (baptism, graduation etc.) I plan to do this for our daughter only I plan to get 2 charms every time and send one to our birthmother for the charm bracelett we plan to give her at placement.

[AMom2Two]

I loved that idea! One for my daughter and for her birthmom. I think I'll begin on Birthmothers day next year. Hush...Don't no one tell her