[Jeannied]

Hi - I am an adoptive mom of a 15 month old boy. We adopted him at birth and are starting the process to adopt a second child. I live in Wisconsin. I would like an e-pal to correspond with during the wait or if anyone is going through it for the 1st time I would be happy to help out.

[chassis]

Hi. I am glad I found your post. I am also from Wisconsin. My husband and I are hoping to adopt. We completed our homestudy in March of 2003. We are now just waiting. I hope that it happens soon. I sometimes feel depressed because three of my girlfriends are pregnant. I feel out of the loop. Whenever we get together, all they talk about is their pregnancies, and ultrasounds and how they are going to decorate their nurseries. They never consider my feelings. It also doesn't help that I am a pediatric nurse. I am surrounded by babies and children all day. We just had a bad experience with a birthmother, and sometimes I feel we will never be choosen to love a baby. I guess I was just wondering if you could give me any information on how to be patient. My husband is wonderful about the whole thing. Sometimes it is just nice to hear from someone else. I was also wondering if your son was an agency match, or something else. Any words of wisdom from you would be great!

[sherryk]

Hi there Chassis!

Have you ever thought about fost/adopt? It seems being a pediatric nurse would give you so many oportunites to find firsthand abandoned/neglected/abused babies that are referred to social services! I know there is that risk of being returned to the birthparents, but atleast your arms would be full and love given to a child that so desperately needs it!

Our foster mom for our adopted daughter was a pediatric nurse. She took in lots of babies with the goal of having someone else adopt them (she was in her 60's.) It did my heart good knowing my daughter had the utmost care before coming into our home at 9 months.

I am sorry you are hurting regarding your friends insensitivity. That is so painful. Do they ask you questions regarding your adoption journey or are they wrapped up in their pregnancies only? Maybe it is time to search for a friend that is in the same process you are in...and spend a little less time with your friends until your waiting time is over. It depends on what hurts you more.

I would love to hear back from you!

Blessings,
sherryk
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[kyliejoysmom]

Hi

I also have a 15 month old baby (little girl) and we are wanting to adopt another one but it was so expensive dont know if we can afford to again. If you have any suggestions on agencies please let me know.

need some suggestions

[DebCsMom]

We also live in Wisconsin, near Milwaukee. We have 2 biological children & 3 adopted children. Our children are Chelsea 16, Cody 14, Cylie (Kylie) 4, Cirrah (Kira) 2 next month & Caleb 9 months. I'd love to talk to you about the adoption process & the dreadful WAITING! LOL

GOOD LUCK Look forward to hearing from you.

Deb

[TRP]

Hey there. I am also waiting for #2. We told our agency we could accept any baby after July 1st...so we are now just in the waiting process. My precious son is 2.5 years old.

I remember the pain of not having children was almost unbearable the first time around but the waiting wasn't too bad. For some reason the waiting this time around seems like torture. I have a precious child to love and cuddle so it is different this time around but still hard. How has it been for you Jeannied? I'm having trouble staying upbeat; it is requiring lots of effort and prayer to stay content and anxious free. Something someone says, an e-mail I recieve, or just my thoughts seem to get me down...I wish I were free of the desire to have children and I wish I wouldn't compare myself with all my friends and family members who always seem to have it easier (I know that isn't really true but sometimes it seems like I am the only one waiting, hurting and desperatley waiting to be blessed with a child).

I'd love to correspond with you....

[davinok]

We are also waiting for the second. It feels surreal. Last time all I wanted was to have a baby, now I have my daughter to focus on (2 yr 2 mo) and thought it would be easy, but I'm still experiencing anxiety. I feel like I just want to meet my next child and bring them home. (only been waiting one week -- )

[tsmaman]

We too are waiting for number 2, and I couldn't agree with you more davinok, it does seem surreal. My 19 mo son keeps me so busy running around that sometimes I wonder what we're thinking to adopt another one

Here's to at least some sleep during the night and a little free time during the day.

[JoylvsEd]

I am from Louisiana. We are in the process of adopting 2 kids. William is 4 1/2 and Chyanne is 3. We have had the kids for a year now, with legal custody a year on March 8. We are basically waiting for the "day" to come so we can file. Also, we are trying to raise the money for the adoption. If you are still interested in an e-pal, let me know and we can exchange details. God Bless you and good luck on your second adoption. Joy Taylor

[donemberc]

TRP,
I so know what you are feeling and talking about! We too are waiting for #2. It feels like FOREVER. We have been waiting only 5 months but still. Our first adoption was a week from when our homestudy was done. So I guess we really didn't get the real experience. Anyway sometimes I need words of encouragement from others besides my fabulous husband. I know this baby will come when it is supposed to but being patient in the mean time is another thing. Hang in there and I will try to also.
Ember

[amom2aj]

Hello,


My son will be 14 months on Tuesday. We adopted him from birth also. He is my life. My husband and I also want to start the process for a 2nd, but it so expensive.

[faithmylord]

Hello,
Would love to chat anytime... C

[jptorres111]

i would love to become and a-pal to someone who is going through or has gone through the process of adoption me and my hubby just decided last night we wanted to adopt thank you