[misslissa9]

Hi there,

I have been lurking here for a week or so and thought that I would introduce myself.

To bring you up to speed on why I am here... I'll give you a quick overview

DH and I have always considered adoption and want to have some biokids and some adopted. We don't really care if they are newborns or older, but my heart goes out to the ones who are older because I can't imagine being that old and seeing no end to the current lifestyle in sight.

I grew up with my bio (paternal) grandma and overall had an excellent experience. This has lots to do with my motivation. I felt like I had such a good life that I want to give someone else that opportunity. I also had experience with separation/divorce between my grandparents who I refered to as mom and dad. I had no idea they weren't my bioparents until I was around 7 or 8 yo. I had many problems with actually an abduction by my biofather (taken to the other side of the country during custody proceedings and recovered by the police), and didn't meet my biomom until I was 15. Again though, I feel incredibly blessed and now successful and I want to pass on my knowledge and love to another child.

DH and I are 27 and 24, has anyone else adopted when they were this young? I'm scared of this being an issue. Another thing is that we both work full time. Does anyone else do this? Is it an issue?

We always keep our eye out on the current "Waiting Kids" but to be honest, none of the circumstances or children really touched our heart until recently. There is a little girl who is 9, she is the same background as myself. Same interests. I don't know anything really about her past, but we are becoming members of the adoption counsel to find out.

I have done quite a bit of reading here and elsewhere on the internet and I agree with some of the other posters that some experiences do sound terrifying! I was on here last night until late into the night actually, just reading your experiences. And, I felt like giving up, but DH said 'no, we still have to try!'. I agree. I can't stop thinking about this girl. I'm just so full of questions. I hope you guys can give me some answers. And, is anyone else from Canada?

Thanks, I look forward from hearing from you.

[bajj]

You might try posting on the Adopting the Older Child forum. You might find more answers there. I've never adopted an older child, sorry I can't help!

[taramayrn]

Welcome and best of luck as you proceed in this journey. There are other "young" couples here who have adopted or wish to adopt. I'm a birthmother who placed in a fully open adoption and I'm also from Canada.
Welcome!

[ProspectiveSingleMom]

I can relate to you as far as seeing a child online who you really feel you might want to adopt. I am in the very beginning stages of the adoption process (going to my first orientation meeting in a couple weeks), and I already have in mind a girl I would like to adopt. She is 12, and I met her at a previous job (I worked on a child/adolescent unit of a psychiatric hospital). One thing to consider with these types of listings, though, is that there is always the possibilty that the specific child you want will be placed with someone else before you can complete the home study process. For myself, I have decided that if I cannot adopt this specific girl I would want to adopt someone with similar characteristics.

As for your age, as long as you are over 21 that's all that matters. There may be a requirement that you and your husband must have been married for a minimum amount of time (usually 2 or 3 years), but other than that, you don't have to anything to worry about.

[devildogwife]

My DH and I were on the younger side of adopting couples. We started the process at 22 and our son was born when we were 23. Age was a nonissue for us.