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Originally Posted By Tina Marie Rutherford

I'm a birthmom ISO 3 Boys My rights where terminated from seeing my children in
1993 when i was only 19 yrs old and in CSD's custody myself Here are 3 of
my posts hope you have time to read

DFS CSD CPS what ever they call themselves these days back when they stole
my boys from me they where called CSD in Portland Oregon I did 3 years of
parenting classes and everything else they wanted me to
I was told i was getting my boys back even then i was asked to sign papers
or i would not be able to take them home my "court appointed" attorney was
even there he said it was ok to sign without reading because i wanted to
read the papers there was allot of papers they said i couldn't read just to
sign to trust them there was about 8 people in the room I thought was odd I
was 19yrs old 16 when all this started anyway the following week i came in
after signing like they told me to To get my boys back home after 3 years of
doing everything they said my rights where terminated / relinquished my boys
where up for adoption i was not told my right or other options
like appeal or revocation of consent or that they could of placed us
together in a home I was in custody myself since age 11 so

Portland Oregon, CSD
Terminated my parental rights in 1993
'I'm a BIRTHMOTHER ISO my 3 Sons
From Portland Oregon
Justin Jam Marchand 06/29/89
Jason Jazz Marchand 12/15/90
Christopher King Van Michael Gordon 04/11/92

last seen with foster parents Karen And Steve
in Portland Oregon I am also looking for help on Revocation of Consent
because when I was a child in the CSD custody myself they tricked me to
giving up my rights of my 3 boys I was mislead to believe that I was getting
my boys back in 1993 when they had me sigh papers. then wouldn't let me
read but the said to me if i didn't sigh them that day they wouldn't let me
see my kids again REMINDER I was also in their custody at this time

To Adoptee's
you should always first ask the adoptive family where they got you from
city, state, agency, at what age, person agents name went threw they should
know those things at least I would think unless they are trying to keep you
from finding your birthparents for their own reasons good or bad I can't
say. then after going to agency or even agent ask them all your
questions...Like CSD if they buried your records you make them dig them up
keep bugging them daily you could also
hire a legal aid attorney to get your records opened sue the agency the
adoptive parent from withholding your info and or lying to you Legal Aid is
free and they just love these probono cases o^_^o birthmom and adoptees have to
fight for the open records alike you should all know on your birthday of
18 - not 21 and or even all your life let the adoptee make the choice when
ready but let him know all his life he was adopted and loved by his parents
but now he is loved also by you. His biomothers heart obviously was broken
the day she had to give up her rights /or terminated but the aparent should
not get the right to keep the truth from you in any way shape or form. Stop
the heart ache give the adoptees the choice at any age. We should all be
able to
register even the afamily should also be able to register for the adoptee.
Instead of even some cases the adoptee ends up running away or even not even
being adopted or in some cases back in foster care all their life.... And as
many cases not all adoptees where given up for adoption "rather most where
taken, and mothers rights where terminated even without merit" to do so and
or tricked into signing papers relinquishing their rights and some even to
young not knowing all their options out their and yes there are options of
course the system don't want to give away those options or the system will
loose out on all the money it makes for selling our innocent children and
turning their life's upside down and usually 98% of children in foster care
the system puts on sike drugs for ADHD, mothers need to stand up and say NO
and get a second opinion "out of network out of CSD or system"
and get a WIC nurse to stand up for the birthmothers
I know mine came to see me 2-3 times a week CSD didn't care they still took
my son when I was 16 my fist child they took him from me
when he was 1 and a 1/2 months old i was in a foster home "i didn't know my
rights that they where suppose to place us together because i was in CSD
custody to since age 11"" they did not tell me my rights or my options" they
just made my life a living hell until i was 19 and ran away to JAPAN "after"
they
turned my life upside down "by terminating my rights to even visit my 3
BOYS I never
harmed my boys in any way I never endangered them I even did 3 years of
parenting
classes threw CSD
"""""and they said to me I was getting my boys back"""""""&quo t; and then said I
had to sign these papers first....... """"I Was 19 in custody myself I
believed them and took them at their word""""........ ((((The next week i
came in to take my children home like they said))) but they had terminated
my rights and then threatened me to get out of the building or they would
call the police....
My Boys were last seen with foster parents Karen and Steve
in Oregon driving in a Brown Chevy Silverado with a wood like trim in 1993
in Portland Oregon CSD (Children Services Division) Last worker I remember
is one Named (David Sanders) last Parenting class worker (Glena Page)
this haunts me still to this day I still am searching daily wanting answers
and a apology from the system they should not have the right to do this
under any condition if mothers want to give their children they should do so
at the hospital people need to quit making excuses for the word adoption
adoption is not a bad word It's not a word to hide from adoptees in fear
they may find out the amom is not their real mother haven't they taken
enough from us they took the precious years the bonding stage away from us
making our children think we are unfit just because we are not rich or a
little young does not we have good hearts and mean well we still have
feelings we can still love Adoption isn't a bad thing for a person who needs
it Meaning taken without a reasonable doubt "for abusive reasons" OR the
mother "really gives up her rights" at birth for her own reason but also the
system needs to be watched daily because allot of it is corrupted and or
revengeful "foster parents are not perfect neither are adoptive parents just
as is the
real parents are not perfect either" To each man his own you reap what you
sew. Do unto others as you would like done unto you do you want your
children
stolen from you???
Maby it will happen to you in your next life adoptive
parents really need to know the birthmother first.
Karen the foster mother knew me and despite knowing i wanted my sons back
she still took them from me saying i could see them on their birthdays and
take them to the park like a open adoption and then she fought me for 3
years in court and she also
flicked Justin in his mouth making him bleed right in front of me and the
whole parenting class and worker nobody said anything Not even Glenna in
court she pled the 5th, She was the Worker I believe her job was threatened.
and I never harmed a hair on any of my children never and that day I vowed
to find her and smack her as hard as i can when i meet her again

And then proceed to explain if i did so the day i saw her do that i would
have
been told i had a anger management problem when in fact I did not i was just
protective as would be any real birth mother... And i was not abusive like
the
foster mother was to my son she was jealous and revengeful because she
couldn't have children like mine.so she took them and adopted them "JUST
MY" 2 cents sorry don't take offence anyone it's just a fact in my life I
still
remember like it was yesterday and I still cry and worry every night about
my
boys. wish someone could set my heart at ease

What else can I do to fight the system I tried Legal Aid they don't and
won't go against CSD.
I want my children back no if ands or buts about it not 4 yrs from now I
want them back "Now".
I can not stand to worry any more my boys now also have a sister age 7
almost 8 and a little
brother age 2 with me and to vouch for me as a parent. My home is and has
always been open
to my children and my heart always will have a place for them please help me
bring them home
Divine2aT@attbi.com
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