[iammykidsmom]

I've never heard of kids being moved so suddenly unless there was a reason/accusation. The agencies around here just don't do that.

[krissya]

their caseworker is insane. that's why the sudden move.

[krissya]

Originally Posted by iammykidsmom

I've never heard of kids being moved so suddenly unless there was a reason/accusation. The agencies around here just don't do that.

their caseworker is insane. that's why the sudden move. there were no accusations- just the concern that one girl's behavior had regressed (but she was still better than she was when I got her!)

[7brats]

in our case,bio mom was a drug addicted teen mother of 6 who was paranoid of men being around her girls.

She would have been fine if I left my husband,so when I said that would not happen,she repeatly trumped up reasons to have the girls moved.

Each and everytime the county came they were able to see the girls were doing better and better as time went on.

Bio mom saw it too,so after she was told by the county she would not get her children back if she didn't get her life straight she decided she didn't want her daughter in the home with ANY men.To make a long story short,she helped her daughter come up with a ''situation'',to cause the children to be moved with family.

Unfortunatly, the children were the ones hurt the most because even today,six months later the children are in therapy and trying to figure out why they have 3 mommies and 3 daddies and why 2 of our mommies and daddies just " disappeared'' from their lives......


At least, I will prayerfully get another chance at being a foster parent and this time I will be more the wise

[StephanieMB]

Our first placement was 2 little boys we had for 16 months. It was a terrible fit and gradually, my health was taking a hit and our youngest son became withdrawn and very sad. He's normally an upbeat, happy kid, so this was very out of the ordinary. We asked to have the boys moved and I took them to the new home.

We still have a good relationship with the boys, the foster family and the bio-parents and are free to visit any time we want. I just received an email from the bio mom recently and she invited us over to visit the boys (who were ru'd 10 months after they left our home)

I thought that was normal... I guess I was wrong and now realize it's something I should not take for granted! We have wonderful cw's who understand that it's not healthy for kids to have people drop off the planet.

I feel for you all, who've been treated so badly. And for the kids who wish they could see you again. There's no closure in anyone's minds! The kids are always left wondering what happened to the people they loved... very cruel of the cw and foster family.

[krissya]

stephanie-
glad you had a good experience. I know there have to be good agencies out there!
what agency did you work with? this agency that I worked is just two 30-something caseworkers. I get the feeling that they have experience working with troubled youth but not a lot of experience managing a foster care agency.
I won't foster again for awhile but would like to know what else is out there that is good, for the future. too exhausted to consider doing this again right now.

[krissya]

Originally Posted by 7brats

in our case,bio mom was a drug addicted teen mother of 6 who was paranoid of men being around her girls.

She would have been fine if I left my husband,so when I said that would not happen,she repeatly trumped up reasons to have the girls moved.

Each and everytime the county came they were able to see the girls were doing better and better as time went on.

Bio mom saw it too,so after she was told by the county she would not get her children back if she didn't get her life straight she decided she didn't want her daughter in the home with ANY men.To make a long story short,she helped her daughter come up with a ''situation'',to cause the children to be moved with family.

Unfortunatly, the children were the ones hurt the most because even today,six months later the children are in therapy and trying to figure out why they have 3 mommies and 3 daddies and why 2 of our mommies and daddies just " disappeared'' from their lives......


At least, I will prayerfully get another chance at being a foster parent and this time I will be more the wise

wow- what a mess. biodad very not involved so I didn't have to deal with that. actually- all their family was pretty ok. just the cps caseworker that was a nutcase.
sounds like there is just so much out there that cps can do to make your life miserable- even if it's just letting the bio-mom have too much of an impact on the kids' lives.

[7brats]

Yes that was a mess,and very tramatic for my husband who had to deal with her lies.She really was a piece of work.Hopefully the bio family that has the girls will not have to deal with her threats and accusations or the children will end up right back in the system.Everyone who tried to help she threatned to kill.

Anyway,CPS was happy she terminated so they don't have to deal with her threats to them.

Its so sad for her 5 beautiful children yet good that they can at least live a normal life.

I wonder if I am ready for the chance to have to deal with something like this again,but I feel it something I have been called to do but this time I am all the wiser(I hope)