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This message was originally posted by BooChee.

I had a failed placement about 6 months ago. It really wasn't our fault though. We are foster/adoptive parents so when we take a child in we are supposed to commit to adopting that child. Well the agency called and told us they had abc and would we accept placement and we said yes, but when the child arrived it was xyz. Basically not at all what we expected and we were way out of our comfort zone with the placement. We didn't know how to tell the worker why we didn't want to keep the placement because we didn't want to offend the worker in any way. So we just said, we weren't ready and some other excuses.

I guess what is bothering me most is wondering if this is going to affect us getting future placements. The child was only in our home a couple of weeks and I felt terrible about having the child moved. But I did make sure the child went to a good home.

Have any of you had failed placements before? For what reasons? And did it affect you getting more calls for placement. Please understand it is hard for us because we are not foster but adoptive home. We are looking to build a forever family with every kid that we accept in our family.

Thank you so much for your help.

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This message was originally posted by hope4kids.

I had some of the same worries when I had to ask the agency to move a child from my home. She was a year older than my daughter and wasbecoming increasingly violent. They were only preschoolers and I thought I ought to be able to control her, but she had lots of rage and pain and was expressing it by going after my daughter. By the end of the placement I was sleeping in their room to keep the younger child safe from the older child and I had to watch her every minute. Even with me watching, she tried to kick her down the stairs, put a rope around her neck, etc. She was also sexually agressive. I knew she had to move, but even so, it was the hardest decision to make. The plan never was for her to stay forever. In fact I had received a notice from the agency saying she was going to a relative placement in 14 days 9 months before I asked them to move her!

I expressed my fears of not getting another placement with my agency. They said that would not be the case, and it wasn't. I have had 4 placements since then. Could you express your concerns to your agency?