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Old 03-06-2013, 10:18 AM
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What does "unsupervised weekends" mean?

WE have been told that we are probably going to start 'unsupervised weekends' after our next court date (in about a month).

This is a good thing, our kids bio mom is busting her butt and doing everything right, and the kids miss her. I am not upset about the progress to unsupervised weekend visits, Im just not real clear on what exactly that means.

With the understanding that everything is a little different everywhere, what is your experience with this?

Are we likely to be talking about all day on Saturday, or will we just start off Friday afternoon to Sunday evening from the very fist visit?
I am like our 3 year old, we both do much better when we know what is going to happen!
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Old 03-06-2013, 10:37 AM
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It usually depends on everyone's schedules and how it works. It's usually different from county to county, and even worker to worker. IMO it will come down to scheduling.
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Old 03-06-2013, 10:42 AM
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my 2 yr old just went home--only a single unsupervised weekend. i can tell you what we did, but like skc said, it's mostly a scheduling thing.

i took Guy to day care. from day care, they took him to mom. mom kept him from Friday morning until Sunday at 3:00. that was the time the 2 of us agreed on for Guy's return. we chose a spot to meet 1/2 way between our houses. we visited briefly and then we went home.

simple--except for the part where the department didn't want to send the baby to his visits--but that's another story!

good luck. we had absolutely no trouble. and like you, it was time. it's good to see it happen this way!
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Old 03-06-2013, 11:38 AM
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Angry bird and rapunzel get unsupervised weekends with dad any time he wants them, depends on his work schedule. She said that most times he picks them up from school on friday and takes them to school monday morning. Almost like a joint custody arrangement.
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Old 03-06-2013, 12:20 PM
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Here we started with unsupervised all days( 9 am to 7pm) On the weekends, this was for 5 all day visits. This weekend will start the first over night. He has been approved for Friday night to Sunday night . Dad will proberly have 3 all night weekends before the boys go home around the end of this month. This tranistion has taken about a month and half and was mainly longer because one of the boys is 20 months old. Both boys have been in care for 1 yr.
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Old 03-06-2013, 12:26 PM
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Our girls have unsupervised weekend visits with their grandmother.

We meet up Friday afternoons in a public location for the hand off, and she brings them back on Sunday afternoons. The time and place was decided by us and grandma. We have occasionally changed it to earlier or later because of weather or appointments. And they have stayed for a 3 day weekend on holiday occasions. We just told their worker and it was fine.

So yeah, it's more like a joint custody w. grandma. This has been their arrangement for as long as they have been in care, even before they came to us.

They are supposed to get unsupervised weekends with their mom, but I don't know if that is going to happen. When it looked possible, the SW said it would basically be the same gig - Fri-Sunday and workout the drop off and pick up with their mom. We have a functional relationship with her, and I know they'll love staying with her but I am not looking forward to that, their mother is not the most punctual.
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Old 03-06-2013, 01:33 PM
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friday afternoon until sun. night or monday morning

Weekend means Friday , usually late afternoon until Sun. night or Monday morning. If the FC is in daycare and your agency transports, that may mean the child will be picked up at daycare on Friday and brought back to daycare on Monday morning.
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Old 03-06-2013, 03:52 PM
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Where we are, unsupervised weekends means full days with the bios but not overnights. It would be like from 9AM to 6PM both Sat and Sun..so the kiddos would just come back for the night schedule.

If they stay overnight with the bios, we usually just call those "Overnight Weekend Visits"...meaning they can take them any time Friday evening or Saturday morning until Sunday night.

Its seems the verbiage is different depending on where you are. I would just make sure you have full clarification from the SW.

I'm happy to hear the biomom is busting her butt. I wish more were like that so these kiddos wouldn't be stuck in care so long.
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Old 03-06-2013, 06:04 PM
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Here weekend is Saturday morning 10 to Sunday at 12 noon. You can adjust the times but its still just 26 hours
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Old 03-06-2013, 06:25 PM
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Its seems the verbiage is different depending on where you are. I would just make sure you have full clarification from the SW.

ditto that. Weekend visits here do not include overnights unless so specified.
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Old 03-06-2013, 08:27 PM
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Here, weekend [overnight] visits wouldn't start until overnights had taken place. So yes, unsupervised on a weekend could just mean unsupervised. However, nothing new here happens without being ok'd by the judge first. Usually at the 6m reviews, DSS will state what they are willing to work up to before the next 6m review and the judge will order the progression at the discretion of DSS. So unless RU had already been put on the table by the judge, it would not happen without another court date.
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Old 03-06-2013, 08:42 PM
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Have they done unsupervised full day visits yet? Weekends mean many things in my area.
Bps usually start with a full day visit (9am-6ishpm) on a Sat or Sun before moving to full overnight wknd visits.
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Old 03-06-2013, 08:45 PM
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BG would be picked up by his mom on Friday after school and she'd drop him off there Monday morning. She would have him on Wednesday evening too so I'd usually go over to her house to pick him up. Like the others have said, it was like joint custody.
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