[jhuck]

Well we are 5 days into our first placement and I guess we have lucked out the kids are cute and pretty well behaved. It is kinda strange though they haven't really asked fir their mom and only a couple of times for Dad. I thought the baby would maybe cry for someone and I thought the 3 yo definatly would ask about them more often but hardly a word. Also they have been calling me Mom on and off since day two and yesterday she called hubby daddy a couple of times. Each time I asked her if she remembered my name and she did. I guess I will let her CW know. I dont care I mean our goal is adoption but this is their first time in care and who knows where this is headed.
Also, they have an aunt and uncle that wanted to take them but CPS didn't place them with them because they knew about what was going on but did not report it. Do you think they will end up with them.

[digmykids]

Thay are at an age that they see pretty much any woman as mom. Which I think is ok. When my first littles came they were 11 months, 2 1/2 yrs, and 3 1/2 yrs and the little ones called us mom and dad from the start cuz they knew the lady is the mom and the man is the dad. They also called most women mom.
Glad things are easy right now enjoy this time.
FYI, the oldest never called us mom or dad.....she had many RAD behaviors and we never pushed her on that.

[TemporaryMom]

Monkey was 2.5 when she came. She cried for mom the first night, then not again. She did try to go home with the workers the first three visits, then not again. Princess never asked about her mother but was convinced that her bio father would come and find her, who she hadn't seen for months. She never mentioned again after the first night.

I swear those girls knew that they were now being taken care of and didn't want to go back, even so early on. We never had a honeymoon period although there were more behaviors around visits the first nine months and then again closer to RU.

[inshape]

Our FD came to us at age 3. She was with bio for the first 15 mo, and with FM for 17 mo. We thought it was strange when she never asked for her FM during respite, then again when we took her as a placement. It wasn't until about a month later that she asked for her foster mom, but I think it was b/c she had just gotten into trouble with me. I gave her a time out, and in that timeout she fell asleep. When she awoke she said her throat hurt and she wanted her mommy. That was the ONLY time she asked to be with her. She never asks about her, or where she's at. At first I just figured it's b/c they didn't bond, but I think she may have attachment issues in the reverse....she'll attach to anyone in a short amt of time....to me that's just as scarey. She also used to have issues with being overly borderline affectionate, but we nipped that in the bud. Congrats to an easy ride....for now, lol.

[LemonPie]

Originally Posted by jhuck

Also, they have an aunt and uncle that wanted to take them but CPS didn't place them with them because they knew about what was going on but did not report it. Do you think they will end up with them.

Tough call, "failure to protect" can be a big issue or a non-issue -- depends a lot on how strongly the state feels about it, the individual judge, the severity of what they knew about, and their reasons for not reporting.

[80smusiclover]

I'm so pleased to hear it's going so well!