[Fostermom1982]

Been a hard day. Went ro court this morning and the kids will be leaving the end of the month. They will be going to family. Im happy for them and feel more comfortable now that I built a relationship w the family. They asked us to still be a part of the kids lives since they are bonded. The kids found out today and are.having a hard time w it. I know its gonna be a hard couple of weeks but they are so worth it. They have taught me a lot and im glad I met them. They have changed my life and I will def be in their lives for years. to come. We told them we are not leaving them we are only a phone call away if they just wanna talk. Has anyone dealt with the kids having a bad reaction to leaving? And how did you handle it?

[TemporaryMom]

My girls were devastated. I thought it was important, after two years, that I deliver them to their bio mom. The hardest part was keeping it together when I had to pick both up from daycare/school. Princess kept asking what happened at court and I had to wait until we got home. Neither wanted to leave. Princess told everyone that she knew that her mom hadn't changed and yada yada. It was hard on her because she was so torn. Odd but I do think it was harder on her because of that. Monkey was devastated. My nieces were here and helped calm them down and finish packing their clothes. and BFF and nieces went with us. BFF actually drove, I was in no condition to drive. I thought it was important that they see me feel the emotion, even though people told me not to. But, once we got to the mother's house, I made sure that THERE they did not see me cry. I barely made it around the corner from view before I lost it.

I know things were hard because when I returned their toys one week later they both flew into my arms and kept going on about how much they loved and missed me, Monkey was in tears. That was the day I knew I would not see them again if bio mom had her way.

So, I think it depends on their ages and how long they have been in care, and how good the relationship is with their bio mom. In my case, at the age she came, Monkey was pretty much 100% bonded to me, and not her mom. Example: Any time we were in the same place, she stood/sat by/with me, not her bio mom. Princess went back and forth on that one.

I am sorry for the pain you will suffer. We just have to hope that the family does let you stay involved. Be prepared for that to not happen.

[elizabeth30]

It's the hardest part of fostering... I think the worst part besides my fs leaving was that the people who took my fs that he did not ever know after I was his mom for two years treated me really bad after they took him. They said all these things that I could see him a few times a year, but it was a lie... Hopefully the family will still keep contact. Once they had my fs they were jeolous of our bond so I will never see him again unless he finds me someday. Good Luck! I hope for the kids sake and yours that you can keep contact.