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Old 04-23-2012, 03:20 AM
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emergency placement tonight

We weren't even supposed to be on the call list!!! Woke up at 2:15am to a call for "a 6 year old girl. No, wait, wait, she's 5 if that makes a difference. We really have nowhere for her to go"

We said no. Then I called back 5 minutes later and told them if they hadn't found somewhere that we could do it on an emergency basis only. She said she had found a placement with another agency but she'd call me back if they needed to keep her in our agency. 20 minutes later we get a call from a different person saying they were having trouble finding our house... Um, ok, didn't know she was coming for sure. Actually had figured that if she hadn't called back that they didn't need us.

OMG. Poor thing is so scared and so tired. Keeps waking up with nightmares.
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Old 04-23-2012, 04:08 AM
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Poor little thing -- night apprehensions are so scary for kids :-(. Hope the both of you got some sleep last night.
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Old 04-23-2012, 05:10 AM
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Old 04-23-2012, 05:10 AM
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Such a scary thing for a child to go through in the middle of the night.

You have to love the communication gaps between the workers

Let us know how she is doing, today. I've had several "emergency....just for the weekend" placements that have lasted for a year!!
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Old 04-23-2012, 07:17 AM
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No sleep for us. Well, not for me or DH. "Fifi" slept for awhile on the sofa. After multiple times where she startled awake, I put her on the sofa with the tv on softly and she slept pretty solidly after that. Probably a familiar noise for her while she's sleeping.

My boy didn't know what to make of her being here. Like I said, we're not supposed to be on the call list. I feel like I'm in that movie Clerks, where they keep saying, "I'm not even supposed to BE here today!"

I am mildly freaking out myself. I told them emergency basis. I am holding them to that. Hopefully they can find some family for her. Last night's worker told me that they have court on Wednesday. I don't know how she'd already know that, but whatever.

My cats promptly deposited themselves on top of her and are refusing to move. I hope she doesn't freak out when she meets our dogs - 115 lb and 220 lb Great Danes. She told me last night that she likes dogs, but I wanted to wait for the morning to introduce them to her.

I feel so bad for her getting removed in the middle of the night! I wish I knew how to make her feel ok. She's kind of out of it right now with being tired and overwhelmed.
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Old 04-23-2012, 07:28 AM
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No sleep for us. Well, not for me or DH. "Fifi" slept for awhile on the sofa. After multiple times where she startled awake, I put her on the sofa with the tv on softly and she slept pretty solidly after that. Probably a familiar noise for her while she's sleeping.

My boy didn't know what to make of her being here. Like I said, we're not supposed to be on the call list. I feel like I'm in that movie Clerks, where they keep saying, "I'm not even supposed to BE here today!"

I am mildly freaking out myself. I told them emergency basis. I am holding them to that. Hopefully they can find some family for her. Last night's worker told me that they have court on Wednesday. I don't know how she'd already know that, but whatever.

My cats promptly deposited themselves on top of her and are refusing to move. I hope she doesn't freak out when she meets our dogs - 115 lb and 220 lb Great Danes. She told me last night that she likes dogs, but I wanted to wait for the morning to introduce them to her.

I feel so bad for her getting removed in the middle of the night! I wish I knew how to make her feel ok. She's kind of out of it right now with being tired and overwhelmed.


I have two great danes too. Wow one of your weighs 220???

We've only had two kids (that came together) that were NOT deathly afraid of them when they first saw them. I had to keep them hidden away for two days b/c I had a sibling set that never got over the fear of them. That was really really really hard!!!!!!!!!!!

I hope she calms down soon. I feel for these kids.
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Old 04-23-2012, 09:05 AM
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Poor baby!! Poor you and DH. I'm so glad you could be there for her when no one else Was...
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Old 04-23-2012, 09:13 AM
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Hope she settles. Maybe let her lay down and watch a bit of tv after lunch so she can nap? And then you might kick back and nap too! I wish they didnt have to do removals in the middle of the night...so hard on the kids.
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Old 04-23-2012, 09:38 AM
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Poor thing must be so scared. Now that it is prob. morning where you are maybe you can find out what are some things she likes or makes her feel at home. I know with our 6 y.o. girl, a nice stuffy, blanket and her favorite movie/book she is good to go. Maybe try that?
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Old 04-23-2012, 03:14 PM
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And she's gone. After she cried herself to sleep this afternoon. She got to go home so hopefully this was a misunderstanding and she'll be safe. I told them if there's another removal to call us so that she's not going to yet another random house. Hope it all works out for her.
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Old 04-23-2012, 03:22 PM
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Wow...I don't get it!? Why would they remove her and put her through that trauma without being sure that there was a reason? Just like that she went home? how bizarre...I mean, yay for her if she is safe...but, wow. Poor angel. I am glad you could be there for her in the meantime...
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Old 04-23-2012, 03:32 PM
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I don't get it!? Why would they remove her and put her through that trauma without being sure that there was a reason?

Where I am, for every child that is sheltered, there is a Shelter Hearing (within 24 hours of removal). At that hearing, the judge makes a ruling on whether he/she agrees that the removal was necessary. If the judge disagrees, the child goes home.
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Old 04-23-2012, 03:36 PM
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Ah...wow...well, I guess the judge must have disagreed in this case. Poor kiddo...either way, that had to be scary!
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Old 04-23-2012, 03:58 PM
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Well, there was a good reason for her removal, but I think it was one that they were able to easily put a safety plan in place once it was morning. That's what I'm hoping. I don't think they even went to court from what I've been able to gather. Not sure. All I know is that it was a whirlwind!
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Old 04-24-2012, 04:14 PM
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I just got another call! Cuh-razy. For more kids than we're even licensed for. They must be really desperate here to keep calling. That, or we just opened the door and they're coming on in for dinner....
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