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Old 02-29-2012, 12:38 PM
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*UPDATE* FDs mom dead

First off, thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers. Dancing Queen has not been told yet. We are waiting to get an appointment with one of the psychologists to assist us in telling her about her mom even though it is probable she will not understand much of what is happening. We want to make sure we don't do anything to set back all the wonderful progress she has made since her injury.

It was officially ruled a homicide this morning. Her mom was killed by "blunt force trauma" and her father has been arrested and charged with 2nd degree murder. He is being held without bond. Thank God! Because if he was bailed out, they were going to have to take her, and possibly us, into protective custody, and that would have been really hard for her to understand and really hard for us to deal with.

This is the saddest case I have ever been involved in. Our community is tight-knit, her mom has lived here her whole life, and had many friends, many of whom I taught, something I discovered only after she died. I discovered I did know who she was, by her maiden name, and I taught her brothers. She was an amazing young lady when I knew her - full of life, spirit and joy. She always had kind words and had all the promise in the world.

Now she is dead. I know she made a choice to be with him, but I truly believe that by the end, she was staying to protect her little girls, and she made the ultimate sacrifice with her life. I am determined to make sure her sacrifice does not go to waste. If I have any say at all, I will make sure HIS family does not get custody of these little girls. We've been asked, if the possibility came up, would we keep DQ? We have said "Absolutely, and we'll take her sister as well because they should be together."

Right now, as it stands, the maximum sentence he can get is 22 years in jail, although usually they plead down to 10-12 years. If they add charges for the aggravated assault he did to his daughter, then he could serve more. I am hoping the justice system, for once, does not let me down, but I'm not holding my breath.

I will, of course, add more updates when I know more. Again, I cannot thank you enough for all your support. My heart is broken for those two little girls, and for her family. I know what it is like to have your family shattered by violence, and it is a horribly experience one doesn't forget.
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None - Taking a break to bond as a forever family!

Former Long Term Placements:
11/08 to 5/09 ~ Dreambaby (3 mons); RU'ed with Parents
4/10 to 12/10 ~ Cuddlebug (1); RU'ed with Parents
07/11 to 11/11 ~ Sweetie Pie (1 mon); RU'd with mom
09/11 to 11/11 ~ Giggler (2.5); Moved to new foster family in same city as mom
12/11 to 9/12 ~ Dancing Queen (3) - TBI survivor; Placed with family

Former Short term placements
02/2010 ~ Blondie (1.5); Moved to Grandma
03/2011 ~ Cuddlebug (Now 2) and Lil Sis (6 mons) ~ RU'ed AGAIN with parents
06/2011 ~ Screaming M (9 mons); Moved to Big Bro


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Old 02-29-2012, 01:06 PM
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Thank you for the update. I'm keeping DQ, her sis, and your family close to my heart.

So terribly sad. At least you are safe now that he is in custody.
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I will keep you and your family (and that includes DQ and sis) in my thoughts and prayers.
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Old 02-29-2012, 02:25 PM
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Old 02-29-2012, 05:03 PM
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You are all in my prayers.
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Old 02-29-2012, 05:10 PM
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Prayers for all of you - and thanks for keeping us updated.
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E. BS 13
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A. BS 8
R. FD 4 (twin to K., sister to Q. and D.)
K. FS 4 (twin to R., brother to Q. and D.)
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Z. STBAS 18 mos

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Old 02-29-2012, 05:53 PM
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I have chills, remembering your post where you said there was no doubt in your mind that your FD would be killed if returned to her family within the year. I'm so sorry for your FD's loss of her mom. And for her mom's loss of all the potential she once had. So tragic all around.
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My prayers are with you.
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Old 02-29-2012, 07:29 PM
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My heart goes out to your family, DQ and her sister... such a horrible outcome... you guys will be in my thoughts and prayers...
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Old 03-01-2012, 08:16 AM
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Thank you again for being so supportive. This forum ROCKS!!!
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7/2007: Began the journey to Foster to Adopt
6/2008: Officially Licensed Foster to Adopt

AD ~ Tiny J (Born 5/2012)

Current Placements:
None - Taking a break to bond as a forever family!

Former Long Term Placements:
11/08 to 5/09 ~ Dreambaby (3 mons); RU'ed with Parents
4/10 to 12/10 ~ Cuddlebug (1); RU'ed with Parents
07/11 to 11/11 ~ Sweetie Pie (1 mon); RU'd with mom
09/11 to 11/11 ~ Giggler (2.5); Moved to new foster family in same city as mom
12/11 to 9/12 ~ Dancing Queen (3) - TBI survivor; Placed with family

Former Short term placements
02/2010 ~ Blondie (1.5); Moved to Grandma
03/2011 ~ Cuddlebug (Now 2) and Lil Sis (6 mons) ~ RU'ed AGAIN with parents
06/2011 ~ Screaming M (9 mons); Moved to Big Bro


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