[SoccerMom70]

Im sooo frustrated. Everytime my nephew complains to the therapist/dr/ phy whatever the heck you call the dr that does his medicines, his answer is to add or increase the prescriptions. We've already dealt with side effects from Hades including uncontrollable tics and yet he still goes straight for the higher doses. My nephew thinks theres a pill to fix everything. Hed rather take a pill and say it doesnt work than take responsibility for his actions. Theres one class at school he cant behave in, he doesnt have problems in the other classes just that one. I dont think meds should be DOUBLED due to that one class. Yes DOUBLED! My nephew knows if he complains to the dr that he'll up his meds, when the Dr asks my opinion I tell him honestly. Nephew didnt appreciate that, so now hes started asking to going in the office alone. I dont have a problem with that but I dont think the Dr is getting the whole story. Then when I give the Dr my opinion my nephew gets mad and throws a fit. I know he is ADHD and I know he needs meds but I dont think they should change them on a 13 yr olds whim! For example last month he told the Dr he was having trouble sleeping. He slept like a rock every night that month except one. That night he had slept half the day so of course he couldnt sleep that night! Before even talking to me the Dr had written out a heavy script for sleeping pills. My nephew saw a LOT of pill popping before he came to live with us. Im wondering if that could have something to do with him continually asking for meds and thinking pills fix everything. I dont know. Im sorry for going off here, Im just frustrated beyond belief. I dont know what to do.

[Doggymom]

Those pills are worth a lot of money on the st. I would monitor them. Did he see them being sold or bought illegally? It is a huge industry. I think when it comes to meds you should be involved. Maybe he is old enough for you to educate I'm on the dangers? Maybe an intervention special on prescription meds? They are on Netflix right now. You could also google info for him. Talk to him about Whitney Houston and Michael Jackson. Meds are as dangerous as st drugs. Good luck. I don't know him but does he have friends/family that would pressure him for pills? Maybe research hypochondria too?

[SoccerMom70]

Thank you, I hadnt concidered hypochondria, I'll look in to that. He doesnt have access to the meds. I give him one pill at a time and wait till he swallows it. We have watched videos and talked about prescription drug abuse, because thats the main reason hes in state custody now. I know hes seen pills bought/sold and used in ways they werent meant to be. Crushed, snorted or used in syringes. Maybe Im over thinking it but with his history it worries me that hes so desperately searching for a 'magic' pill that will fix everything. And the Dr is oh so quick to grab his script pad and start writing. Theres not a pill in the world that will prevent him from being disrespectful. There may be one that will make him a drooling zombie but I refuse to believe thats the answer here. Im angry that the Dr didnt even talk to me before deciding to double his meds. I dont want my nephew to think Im poo poo'ing his complaints but I seriously disagree with this decision. Our CW is due to visit on Friday, I think I'll discuss it with her and get her thoughts on it.

P.S. he got his report card today and it was the best one yet! But he told the Dr hes having trouble concentrating??

[Doggymom]

Has he read the side effects? Seen pics of liver disease? Kidney issues. Too much of anything is toxic to out bodies. What about getting him into healthy living? Like the drs website? Emailed tips on daily healthy living. Feeling good eating right exercise lifting the spirits immunity etc he needs to know that his body is temple and we have to be careful what we put into them. He is special smart etc. he doesn't need to be fixed do you think he gets that? That he is getting good grades making you proud. Maybe he needs self esteem help too.

[alys1]

Can you research another Doc who's not so quick to write prescriptions, and change doctors?

[SoccerMom70]

Originally Posted by Doggymom

He is special smart etc. he doesn't need to be fixed do you think he gets that?

This just may be it! I need to find a way to convince him that hes OK more pills wont help anything. Maybe its silly but I worry that continually adding more pills will push him in the direction he was removed from ya know.

I dont know about switching Drs, Im gonna ask the CW tomorrow.

[stimulus]

I'd talk frankly with the doctor about the prescriptions and him not talking with you before prescribing more. Call him when your nephew is in school, and lay it all out there. If he isn't going to involve you in the decisions, I'd get a new doctor who will.

I haven't dealt with this with meds, but recently, my FS' counselor wanted him to start seeing a rehab specialist for anger management. I wasn't happy with the way he spoke to my FS, so I decided not to continue that therapy. I didn't talk with his CW about it at all. For me, it came down to that I wouldn't use that rehab worker if FS was my biological child, so I wasn't using him for FS either.

[stimulus]

On a side note, you might look into the option of a behavioral rehab specialist like what was suggested for my FS. Their role is like a mentor, talking with the child about their behavior, and they don't prescribe meds. Ideally, it's someone else reinforcing reasonable rules and behavior standards for the child, while helping them understand why they struggle in certain areas without making excuses.