[Doggymom]

Hubby and I went out on our first date since having the kids. My best friend babysat. We were gone approximately 3.5 hours. While my BF is changing my son for bed AD tells her that Dev touched her down there and moved her hand over her privates. Both kids were dressed foster son followed in right on her heels didn't deny any of it. I broke my own age limit figuring it would be ok...I feel horrible for dd. my sw who did our adoptive placement asked if I wanted him moved tonight I said he was ok here already asleep. She will call me in the morning. Asked if our bedroom door is open it always is.. Do you think they will move his brother with him? She kept telling hubby him not them in her wording. I feel guilty..mad at myself. Dd seems fine but she was embarrassed and knows he shouldn't have touched her there.

[rm41more]

O-M-G I am so sorry to hear this. I wouldn't know what to do if I were in your shoes and I hope that I never have to deal with something like this. My heart goes out to you and I will keep your family in my prayers tonight. I probably would have had him removed but I can see why you let him stay especially since he was sleeping already. That be a bummer if they took both of them but you have to do whats best for all members of your family. Hope everything works out for you. Keep me posted on the outcome.

[Doggymom]

He will be moved tomorrow. I didn't want all the kids traumatized when he cried be taken out into the dark. I don't want my AD to have bad memories negative feelings of self blame for him going. He is asleep. I was surprised hubby was calm...he's only just turned 4 ....

[rm41more]

You know you make a good point about having him carried out and all the other kiddos being upset as well as your daughters feeling regarding the situation. I think you made the right decision. Will they be removing his brother as well? I hope your daughter will be ok.

[momto1g1b]

I hope your DD is OK. Sending prayers her way.

[greenmama]

I imagine they would move both boys...siblings should stay together. Sorry for what happened to your DD. :-(

[digmykids]

I'm really so sorry this happen. But your DD seems like a smart cookie, smart enough to tell, smart enough for embarassment at the situation and just smart.
Good for FS for not denying it, he's very young and he can "get" it.
I would hope they would take the boys together, they are brothers and if they go together then the other home can watch them but he doesnt need the trauma of losing his baby brother too.
I know you are hurting and blaming yourself. I have SO been there (and recently) but you cant do that to yourself, you have to get on and know there are other young ones out there to help.

(((Hugs)))

[Doggymom]

Well we have called sw and agency no reply yet. Kind of ticks me off. He has tried to go into her room and close the door behind them twice ts morning...idk if he is safe to be in a room with another child even his brother. We shal see what happens next. Hubs told the lady he spoke with that we are giving price on D.

[digmykids]

Giving price on D? What is that?

[Doggymom]

Sorry iPad will change words if I misspell..I meant give notice. Dev is being moved tonight. Baby B is staying with us until they can find a home to take them both or if the county thinks they should be separated. Dev changed his story for sw who ca,e by to interview. He won't answer questions he just says no and looks away. I guess my dd said he did before then said he hadn't...idk. I can't risk her. He is going to be in a home with no other kids for now. He tried to close the door with her in the room twice this morning. A sucky valentines day.

[dazzlingdeb]

That's a shame! All the way around, for you, for your daughter, for your foster child too who obviously saw that or had some sort of abuse.

I would recommend having line of sight with all the kids. Don't leave your daughter in her room by herself, maybe have the kids color at the table or something. Keep them all safe and not have tempting situations for him.

[Doggymom]

A very sad situation. This child has been exposed to something. I guess the home was so bad the police officers did not want to enter it..sw tells me today it is the worst home anyone can remember. I feel like this is the right decision. We will be sticking to crib age children.

[alys1]

First, how wonderful that she told, and right away.

Second, I commend you for having him spend the night.

I know you will take the distress you're in now, and learn from it, research, learn, change. We all do.

[navywife]

We're going through the same type of mess here now. We had to put up alarms and the therapist said not to let her out of line of sight. Its gotten to the point where I'm afraid to pee. She's leaving this morning though and hopefully then I'll be able to recover from strep throat.

[Doggymom]

Line of sight is impossible with four kids. D would wait til I was busy say brushing teeth and go close the door.. He waited til we were out of the house to touch her...the second you are focused on another child changing a diaper doing meds etc it's over... I am glad the house he is in has no other kids. He head butted my daughter on the way out the door...the homey,on is over and his true rightful emotions are coming out I don't blame him for his anger or actions it is just what he knows. I freaked out at over night sleepovers. I can't imagine being removed from mommy.