[Soexcited86]

In the midst of me having issues with the agency. I have PCOS. This is the reason I have chosen to foster/adopt. My foster rep says I should have the surgery to have my cyst removed. She continues to say she has had surgery on her ovaries and she should be able to have kids .. Well what's good for the geese isn't necessarily good for the gander. Its my choice not to go through with surgery and I just think she cross the line. Lets say I have the surgery and I still cant get pregnant then what? Back where I started.

[momto1g1b]

Maybe she is trying to help? I hope everything works out for you.

[elk134]

She may be trying to help and just offering advice. As you stated, in situations like that, what works for one, does not work for another. I had similar surgery to remove a large cyst. Doctor was sure I would be able to conceive once that was done. He was wrong, it did not work for me. It's a personal decision, so ultimately it's your decision. Hopefully she will just drop it once you have made your mind up.

[skc515]

PCOS is a vicious beast and no one has it exactly the same. It also responds differently for everyone. If you have a large cyst on one ovary, it *can* help, but if your other ovary is fine it may be unnecessary.

Why can't you do BOTH at the same time?? We're getting ready to pursue IVF again (PCOS and Endometriosis) and we're fostering.

[jeni-b]

And with PCOS cysts return. It is sometimes necessary to have one removed, but that doesn't make PCOS go away.

[Soexcited86]

I have the string of pearls as they say. Im going to try to schedule an appointment to see whats going on. I havent been to the doctor about the issue since 2007

[singingmama]

I have PCOS and have struggled for 13 years to conceive. We pursued foster adoption for the same reason.

Our case worker wanted to make sure we had dealt with the loss of the idea of a pregnancy and had tried all avenues we wanted to before pursuing an adoption. They wanted to make sure that we were ready for what was to come. She asked if we had tried different methods ect..

Funny thing is a month before our adoption to Little R we got pregnant randomly after 13 years. Unfortunately due to the PCOS and hormone issues I lost the pregnancy.

Now we have an adopted daughter, and are pursuing pregnancy and thinking about adopting again all at the same time.

I think she might have been trying to help. We tend to be REALLY sensitive about pregnancy when you can't get pregnant and unsoliciated advice is not always welcome. I have heard it all and have said to myself " don't you think we have tried it all!"

Good luck with fostering and adopting

[digmykids]

PCOS is so wicked! Struggled for way to long, lost too many babies and cried way to many tears.
In the end and at the start we were so blessed. We have 2 adopted sons (placed at 5 and 8 wks old) who are now our 21 and 22 yr olds and then with the miracle of fertility drugs and interventions we have 2 wonderful bio boys (9 and 13)
I think I'd like to hope the worker was making sure you were doing all you could do to have a baby before you got on the roller coaster.
Just trying to see the good in the worker I guess.

((hugs)))
I had a cyst removed, helped with that cyst but not the PCOS

[skc515]

Soexcited. I would recommend finding a Reproductive Endocrinologist. A regular gyno is ok, but REs specialize in this type of stuff.

Even better if the local clinics have a PCOS clinic/experience.

[jamie2882]

I also have PCOS, my Reproductive Endocrynologist said he could not remove PCOS related cysts. They are too small and there are too many. They can however remove endo cyst (chocolate cysts some call them) because they are bigger, but they are not related to PCOS, they are related to endometriosis. PCOS cyst control is usually related to hormone control. That said after 2 years of IF treatment I had exploratory Laproscopic surgery because we had gotten the PCOS under control with hormone treatment and I still wasn't getting pregnant. Surgery revealed severe fallopian tube damage/blockage which was the real cause of my infertility, not the PCOS. I am still paying off the medical bills, it was painful, recovery was long, and even with the blockage being sort of removed my chances of pregnancy are slim to none. All that aside I am still GLAD i did it, knowing is better than not knowing, and trying everything before changing our path to parenthood gave us peace of mind.