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#1
12-01-2011, 08:16 AM
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No adoption for us this year
The dust from my mistake has settled and they are postponing the adoption and making P go back into adoption prep. They say she is not ready. She will not say in front of the county worker that she wants to stay with me. She is afraid that her aunt and grandma will be angry and upset with her. Both of their homestudies have been denied. Now she is going to have to say it in a court room with them looking at her. She is 9, don't know if she can do that. I'm thinking that P and V will be foster for a long time. And we were so close. We will be going to counseling together. She brought up jealousy issues with her little sister and we will need to work on that too. I was very upset yesterday as the GAL did nothing. Yes, I made a mistake, but wow, never thought the consequences would be this huge. I'm putting it behind me as of today so I can make a happy Christmas for my two girls.
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Former Placements Emme  3 days to 6 months-RU'd Princess P arrived 12/29/2008  Precious V arrived 12/10/10 
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#2
12-01-2011, 10:06 AM
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I'm so sorry
 I hope things can settle for the holiday season. I wonder though if she cant say it in front of a CW how do they think she will in front of a court room full of people...including those she is afraid of hurting/disapointing?! Dumb!I may have missed it and hope I'm not being rough...what was the mistake you made? (((hugs)))
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AS 22 years old  AS 21 years old BioS 13 years old BioS 9 years old Current placements: FS 2 days old 6/11FD 14 years old  2/12Former placements: FD 5 years old 12/09FS 4 years old 12/09FD 2 years old 12/09FS 3 years old 5/11FS 11 years old 9/11FS 15 years old 10/11FS 3 years old 10/11FS 9 years old 10/11FS 10 yrs old 11/11
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#3
12-01-2011, 12:22 PM
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While driving to a swim meet we drove right past her aunts house and we stopped to say hi, even though we weren't supposed to see her family. They came to her swim meet, everything was fine. I never left P with her aunt alone, but it was wrong. A split second decision I will regret for months. I let a 9 yr old talk me into it. Not good parenting on my part.
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Former Placements Emme 3 days to 6 months-RU'd Princess P arrived 12/29/2008 Precious V arrived 12/10/10
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#4
12-01-2011, 07:55 PM
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I am so sorry that you are having to go through such a frustrating time. I know that it is awful to have been so close to adopting and then have it pulled out from under you. I am glad that you are focusing on the holidays with your girls, that is the right attitude to have. God Bless You!
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#5
12-01-2011, 08:46 PM
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AArgh! We just found out we won't be finalizing this year either. It's so frustrating to be SOOO close, and then not.
You have really been put through the ringer... and it does seem that they overreacted on this incident. Deep breaths, right?
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