[RnMsmommy]

I was wondering if anybody could tell me what happens at a bonding study. I am currently waiting for one for my FD with my family and an uncle will have a separate one with our fd. I don't know if I should take pictures or nothing at all. We have had her since she was 2 days old. She is now 15 months. I'm kind of nervous and just want to know what to expect. The uncle came forward when she was 9 mths thank you....

[RnMsmommy]

wow..I really thought someone would have experience with bonding studies...thank you anyways..I'm to google it and try and find some info that way...

[mommytoEli]

i'm so sorry you didn't get any responses. i honestly have NO experience in this field...and have only ever heard of it here. maybe after you experience it....come back and post about it so i can be educated. good luck on the google search.

[fostapeepz]

Our state doesn't do them very often anymore. Sorry. I hope you get the information you're looking for.

[pammi716]

We did only one bonding study and that was with birthmom. I also had to be there for the 1st half. I went into a room with the girls and birthmom. There was toys and books. The psychologist watched the interaction between the girls and their mom and with me. He then asked birthmom to leave the room for 15 seconds to see what reaction the girls would have with their mom leaving. Then after that he told me I could leave with the girls and he then took birthmom into his office to evaluate her. I never had to do a bonding study, I was just there for the one they did for birthmom. Hope this helps a little.

[RnMsmommy]

just an update....I did google bonding studies and didn't get much info with that...so I googled bonding assessments and the funny thing is is that it brought me to ADOPTION FORUMS! .. I got to read postings from a few years ago and they described what happens in an assessment...I feel better now....I'm confident the evaluator will see that our FD has a bond with us that shouldn't be disturbed...I'll also be taking my daily journal and photos to show the evaluator..just in case anyone is or might be going through the same thing if you google "bonding assessment" there is also a website that takes you through a bonding assessment...step by step and what they will be looking at and what are they looking for...it was very helpful to me and I hope it may be helpful to others...

[jill__09]

I think I may have gone through a bonding assessment as part of our fs's mental health evaluation just a few days ago. Fs and I were put in a small "play room" that had a double sided mirror. I was given 1o envelopes with little tasks inside for us to complete together. They were pretty basic: read him a story, build a building together, etc.. Nothing out of the ordinary happened and it only took about 45 min. My DH is scheduled to go through the same routine next week.

[Newshyde]

I was wondering about this. CPS decided to do a bonding study between my FD and her BioD, however it got cancelled because they couldn't figure out who was going to pay for it since it didn't fit into any specific category I guess.
Too bad. I've had her since she was 17 days old and now she is 16 months. At visits BioD pays a lot of attention to FS, gives him toys, brings him special treats, etc. But nothing for her. He forgot her birthday which was only three visits after her brother's birthday visit. Apparently they are just going to go off of how they act towards each other during visits for the TPR trial.

[Sissy22]

I had 2 with my 10 yr old foster daughter back in sept the 1st they watched us play a game and answear ?'s the 2nd 1 was an oral interview and written test about our life niether made much sense in my opinion. good luck.

[lakin11]

I've had 2 bonding studies done for 2 different cases. It was basically the psychologist getting history about DH and I, our families, our marriage, etc. Then she asked about the history of the children, their comments about bios, their reaction to visits, etc. Then she watched us and the kids interact and play together. Then she spoke to the children alone, while DH and I waited in the lobby.

One thing in our case that could have hurt us...there was never a bonding study done with the bio parent. In one case, the bio was outside this country and it would not have been possible. She did ask the children about their bios though. Believe me when I tell you the lawyers for the bios ripped up the bonding assessment saying it was biased and unfair b/c there was not done w/ the bios, so she could not have adequately assessed their bond with bios....which would have been stronger (right.......hadn't seen either of them in 3 years).

In the end, it didn't matter in that case, there was plenty of other evidence. In 2nd case, bio relinquished over 1 1/2 yrs later.

Does the uncle have visitation?