[shavon]

Wheeewww...that was tough...I thought it would be easier on little man, he still didnt want to go. He seen bios truck pull in and he slamed the door LOL..

I invited dad in for a cup of coffee. and we visited for about 20 minutes hoping little man would get more comfortable with the idea of going bye bye with him..

I think it helped little man but good grief it was hard on the rest of us But its not about me...so if this helps this is what I will continue to do...

[sunshinemomma]

I am sure that it does help little man. It is also very compassionate to bio Dad and a good beginning of "a" relationship no matter what the future holds.

[Withay]

Thank you Shavon for thinking of what is best for little man. I know it can (and is) very hard to let go, but you are doing the best thing for little man and his dad by inviting dad to have coffee while little man gets comfortable.

Kudos to you and biodad.

[chloroxsis]

I'm proud of both you and and bdad. It shows that he has some patience to come in and chat, when he probably just wanted to leave. And you showed so much love for Little Man by making it work for him. You get an A+ in Fostering Mothering.

[mylovebug]

we have had our foster son since he was 2 days old and now that he is almost 13 months he has just started doing weekends with his dad. I can not believe how hard this has been. I hope it gets better because I do not know if i can go through this ever again. Me crying all weekend is not good for my family. I just never saw this coming and since we went 8.5 months without visiting a family member I guess I let my guard down, now my heart is breaking. This is so hard!!

[shavon]

Mylovebug....It is hard..so hard. I sometimes feel as if my heart is being ripped out and spit on. When little man tries to squirm from bio dad to get back in my arms I just want to grab him and run.

When we picked him up yesterday evening he was soooo happy he ran to my hubby and didnt let go. He wouldnt even come to me LOL..

It hurts like heck. But I will do every thing possible to help the transition if he is going to be sent home.

[potentialsinglemom]

shavon, how many weekends are they going to transition him?

[shavon]

I have no idea...He just gets one day on the weekends, no over nights yet.

They were just going to send him home with a family reunification specialists that would be in the home for 20 hours a week. Bio dad was supposed to get on days, he was offered a day position at his place of employment but he turned it down because it was going to be less money.. so family services said that they were going to put that plan on hold until dad gets put on days..

So who knows..I know now dad cares about him but I think all the procrastination he does is because he is afraid of the responsibily of having little man all the time..