[arbuckle17]

I am really at an impass on this.

It has been a long hard journey with our current placement, between therapies, mistakes by bmom after the first visit and the nightmares that followed that disaster.

In the end after a lot of hard work on everyone's part we have a really good plan put together for her and recovery from the problems, in a monitored environment. There is really a lot that went into this.

On their way to that environment, the bmom and bgma were supposed to stop by and have a visit and they wanted to meet us as well so we complied though we were hesitant.

I juggled meetings at work and got the first 1/2 hr of the visit free so I could stop in there with my DW to say hi and chat for a few min before we left them to have some alone (well alone with the visit supervisor) time with the boys.

We got there and the gma was there bmom had gone back to check out of the hotel...... ummmm ok ...... but would be back shortly.

So we hung out for about 1/2 hour and then i said I had to go. Gma said the mom would def be there at the end, and I said I would see what I could do. So I took all the meetings on my blackberry and juggled again so I was free just so I could meet her when we picked up the boys.

We get there and bgma was leaving in tears and bmom never showed up...... WHAT..... AFTER ALL THAT....

I have always tried to give her the benefit of a doubt and we have been very supportive of her getting the help she needed. They had to drive through our town (3 hours from where they live) and a trip to a city (5 hours from where they live) and stayed here overnight to have the visit, so it wasn't as if there was anything she could have done.

I am so tired of every missed phone call being followed up with dramatic excuses. God give me the patience to deal with this....

Sigh well there is my rant for the day....

[arbuckle17]

sigh I am sorry that was mostly out of spite.

I don't think the boys understand what is happening, I can't imagine how heartbreaking it would be if they did.

I just hope that there is a good reason, they kids need stability so bad, and things like this really make me nervious about them going back at the end of the plan.

[Jensboys]

I just wanted to say I understand - the frustration, the helplessness, the overwhelming questions and unknown future. Our girls parents havent shown up for a visit since the very first week of September. We have done everything to facilitate visits (doing all the driving, supervising, buying gas, providing THEM meals) ... and we know they are in town because we have seen them, but they avoid us and their babies like we have the plague. And next week? Its supposed to be the mediation appointment to begin the transition of the girls back home.

You have to be able to vent somewhere. I am glad you have a spot to do it.

[parenting-over-40]

I feel your frustration. It seems like sometimes we as the FP's want this more for the children than their own BP's do. We try so hard to make sure the children get to these appointments and they have the opportunity to see their birth families. Then the birthmom or BD does something like this and then you just can't believe it. Yes, there are many times I am frustrated with Birth families.

Please continue to come here to vent.