[fostapeepz]

The state made our teen go back home before she was ready. Nothing had changed - her dad was still never home, worked all day and stayed at the bar most of the night. She ended up in the hospital and then a big stint in an RTC. After she went back home from there, she said it just wasn't going to ever work at home and asked to come back to our house. We gladly opened up our home to her. We care very much for her and I guess I really thought that all she needed was just to have someone home and a stable environment.

I think I was naive. Her attitude has been in a downward spiral, and she is filled with anger that I've never seen in her before. I know where the anger and pain come from, but she's not holding her parents responsible for any of it - it's being deflected on to me. She is defiant, and has been hurting herself to a degree that is far worse than I've ever seen.

I wish with all my might that I could be that person that stands by her through thick and thin and just continues to hold her accountable for her actions, and holds her hand when she needs it. But the truth is, her anger is getting worse, and we have smaller children in the house. I've begun to feel less and less safe. I never ever thought the day would come that I would not trust her. But the more out of control she acts, the more I fear that she will decide to hurt me the biggest way she knows how - through the kids. That may just be fear on my part...but I'd rather be safe than sorry.

I don't know what else to do for her. She spent Thursday in the counselors office insisting to be moved. Then she turns around and changes her mind mid day. We are supposed to take the weekend to calm down and reassess on Monday. But I truly think that unless she begs for another chance, she's going to opt to leave. I feel really sad about that....but I also think there would be a sense of relief. We're tired of the drama and of being the only ones actually doing any of the work to help her. If she isn't willing to help herself, we can't be the stage for her drama.

[stevenstwin]

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this! It must be very difficult for you. I totally understand not letting her stay if you don't feel the other children are safe. Please let us know what happens tomorrow!

[sunshinemomma]

This must be so hard for all of you. Seeing that she has been hurt again and then seeing the payback coming into your family. It just doesn't seem right does it?

[thelowlanders]

THinking of you.....

[fostapeepz]

She's leaving. All we asked is that she be willing to work on herself. She said she doesn't need to. That everything is going to be fine once she graduates. Right. It makes me so sad to see her running away like this.

[thelowlanders]

Ah yes...the flight technique. Ours tends to do this also.