[AmahMama]

Her life may very well have been 'upset' by having Austin in it... My daughter says her life was upset by having a Mom, Dad, Grandmother, Grandfather.... all of whom wouldn't let her 16/17 year old butt do what she wanted.

She had trauma in her life too, brother disappeared to be a missing person (still), Gma that she was close to died, Gpa (other side) had long disabling illness, we divorced, Dad moved several states away, remarried, got close with stepchildren, became an only child with an overprotective Mom (me) because of mys issues with having my son disappear...

My point is only that, everyone has traumatic issues in thier lives. Austin came right about the time her hormones were changing, they still are changing. Maybe therapy will help. Maybe she just needs time. Time for her body to stabilize, get thru those emotional teen years (even without trauma) and stay the loving, supportive, maternal, stable adult. Let her know you are listening, have compassion, and will always be Mom, even though you cannot change history. God does what He needs to do to give us the tools we will need during the rest of our lives.

Not much of an answer I know, I feel for you. I feel for all the parents of teens. I don't know how I lived thru being the Mom of 1 and now I watch her be the Mom of 4... amazing.

Good luck... you will both be stronger for the past... brings tools for the future.....