[jjjjmom]

Thursday night, (well 1:30 in the morning) I had two social workers banging on my front door demanding that I open the door because they had allegations against me. They came in woke up my children, foster and bio. It was two of them, they each went in a room with each one of the foster kids and asked questions, it took over an hour, then a police officer just walks into my house and then another one, no knocking just walk right in! Social workers are walking around my house going into bedrooms like their own homes! I was in shock I couldn’t react. Then they ask me to wake my children to interview them, 3 hours later they finally talk to me. They said that somebody had called the hotline that morning and said that I abused the children physically and emotionally and that my 5 year old A-son and 8 year old F-son said that it was true. They asked my 17 year old questions like where is her dad, does he give me child support, what kind of relationship do we have with him etc. They packed up the foster kids stuff and took them, they did not allow me to do the packing and they also took stuff they belongs to me and my daughter school bag with her money homework binders school ID, work permit and all her stuff. It was horrible!!! God knows that I NEVER touched those kids and although I can’t trust the system I do trust God and hope that all these will end here. My license wasn’t removed but heck I don’t want it any more. I will not foster ever again. I really tried to care for all my foster children to the best of my ability and beyond, I never mistreated them in ANY way, I gave up so much for them and I am glad that I did because I know that I touched their little lives. I kept in touch with most of my foster kids and their parents, some cried when they left. I don’t know what’s going to happen now; no one has contacted me, not even my agency.
I am very sad that this has made my foster experience so bad that if any one asked me my opinion about becoming foster parents I would say “DON’T DO IT” I can’t sleep, my 5 year old is afraid that they are taking him too, he wants to be with me all the time. Has any one experienced this before, (hope the answer is no)
What is next?

[shavon]

wow...what a night!!! I am sorry you are going thru this. And they wonder why foster children ars so afraid of social workers and cops.

I hope all of this gets sorted out very soon for you and your family.

((((hugs)))

[stevenstwin]

That sounds so traumatic - what an awful, awful way for them to handle it! :-(

[chevyjewel]

If I were you I'd be getting a lawyer as soon as possible to assess if what was done was even legal, secondly to protect your and your son from from/during any further interrogations and impending actions. What an awful way to handle the whole thing.

[newatthisfl]

I am new here and anxiously awaiting my license to foster, but I read your post and just wanted to say that I am so sorry you are going through this! I hope that things get better soon!

[MamaS]

ChevyJewel is right. Get a lawyer and do it quickly. Make a list of your and your daughter's personal property that was taken and demand it be returned.
Then, start thinking about who might have done this.
Have you had any run-ins with neighbors? Maybe some of them don't like children or think all foster kids are criminals.
Does your ex-husband want custody of your bio-children? This would be the ideal time for him to request a change of custody.
Have you had any interactions with your foster kids bio-parents? Several foster parents have been falsely accused by bios, who believe that if their child is removed from the foster home he/she will automatically be returned to them.
Has your older daughter broken up with a boyfriend lately? Teenagers can do this kind of thing in anger and not realize (or care about) the consequences.
Have you gotten a job or a promotion that another person wanted?
It will help your lawyer to know why this happened and it will prepare you for any other nasty surprises.

[Maura_H]

This is awful! I am so sorry this is happening to you. Keep us updated if you are able. I do hope this situation is rectified as soon as possible.
Hugs your way!

[jjjjmom]

Thank you ladies for your replies. MamaS I didn't even think of any of that but no, my ex doesn't want custody our daughter will be 18 in 3 months, Jake is not his son I adopted him, I don't have any problems with neighbors, I don't even socialize with them as I have no time, my life consisted of social workers visits and appointments for my foster kids, my life revolved around my foster kids. My daughter is not the typical teenager, she has never had a boyfriend yet and is very close to me, she is like the second mom to the children. No job promotions and I get along with their mom great, she wanted all the kids with me, she has 7. They did mention the 13 year old sister whom I had removed from my house because she always said that she wanted to kill her self and I felt that I couldn't care for her properly since I work full time and had 4 other kids. On a different note, the social worker told my daughter that she needed to keep her room clean becasue she was risking her mother's income, I said excuse me? she said "yes, that's how you pay your bills, isn't it? I said No I have a full time job and that's how I pay my bills, she just walked away and mumbled "I'm sure you use the money to pay bills" I just left it at that and didn't respond.
I know that I was blessed to know these 14 kids that I fostered and the one that I adopted but if I had another chance I would not foster, no way! My son was meant to be and would have found me one way or another. Sorry I'm just very angry right now.

[mommytoEli]

WOW! i am angry for you!

[chevyjewel]

No reason to apologize, anyone in your situation would have the right to be livid.

The sw's comments alone would have put me over the edge...

[myForeverkids3]

Very scary! I would take the others advice and contact a lawyer. Maybe a FP support group could help? Have you contacted your agency? I just don't get why the children's SW didn't come pick them up instead of sending investigators and police???

[Kerowins]

I'm so sorry this happened to you and your family. You and yours and in our prayers

[MamaS]

Something stinks.
If the CWs and police REALLY believed that the children were subjected to physical and emotional abuse then they would have removed your 5-year-old adopted son too.
The fact that the CW was so interested in child support, plus the remark about using the kid's money to pay your bills makes me think someone reported you who is jealous of the "extra money" you are getting. Maybe someone at your work who does not get child support, or someone who tried to be approved as a foster parent and failed?
I would not be surprised if taking your daughter's work permit was intentional, so that they can check out how much she is earning.
I also would not be surprised if the next step is that you are asked for an itemized accounting of expenditures for the children.
Get a lawyer, asap. Also call your daughter's workplace and ask to be notified in any cw's contact them asking for information on your daughter.

[parenting-over-40]

This is horrible! Makes me mad that you and your children had to go thru this because someone is jealous. I agree with MamaS, something definitely stinks. Get a lawyer ASAP.

My guess is whoever did this didn't even consider the impact it would have on you and these children. They are jealous of you for some reason. Just kills me to think these children were ripped out of your home in the middle of the night. They (and you) are going to live with that for the rest of their life.

Blessings to you as you get to the bottom of this situation. I pray you get resolution as soon as possible.

[Sunnyblu]

OMG! You still haven't heard anything? Where do you live if you don't mind me asking. I just can't imagine how horrible that was, like a home invasion.