[potentialsinglemom]

I went to get my hair cut. The salon is owned by a mother-daughter team. After the daughter finished cutting my hair, I was asked how I was going to spend the rest of my Saturday. My reply was that Muscles and I were going home to take a nap.

The mother, who was studying her Bible, chimed in and replied..."that is why the raising of these babies should be left to the young people".

Guys...I did good!!! It was hard but I kept my mouth shut. I am 41, and his young mama is 20.

I do not understand why people do not think before they speak.

[kakuehl]

My mother always said that God knew what he was doing when he gave children to the young. (Of course, at my age I consider 41 to be young.)

My theory has always been: when the baby goes down for a nap, take one too!

[RNFosterMom]

I'm sorry she said that to you. It was insensitive and obviously based on an old fashioned world view. Perhaps I'm deep in denial, but I don't think of 41 as NOT being a young person! Even so, I'm 42 and I think I'm better at this mom thing now than when my kids came along when I was in my early 20s. I remember being afraid of many things, not having a lot of confidence in myself, feeling more overwhelmed when things went wrong.

You know you are doing a great job. At the end of the day, that's what matters. Your maturity is just one of the qualities you bring to the table that allows you to give your FC what he needs.

[dachshunds4you]

I'm 34 and I still take naps if I'm able on the weekend when all the kids are down for theirs!
So I guess I must be old too!

They were probably jealous you can go home and take a nap, and they have to work long hours cutting peoples hair!!

[ca-bigsister]

I certainly would not go and support a business where I felt mistreated and had to keep my mouth shut when they were rude to me.

I would have turned to the woman and asked her what she meant. That's not rude, but it would give her an opportunity to think about what she said.

[SarahBethsMommy]

I'm 28 and I am exhausted half the time. That was just a stupid comment.

[deadcalm]

I am 46 and very young, so I guess she is talking about me.

[fredalina]

Originally Posted by ca-bigsister

I certainly would not go and support a business where I felt mistreated and had to keep my mouth shut when they were rude to me.

I would have turned to the woman and asked her what she meant. That's not rude, but it would give her an opportunity to think about what she said.

This. "What do you mean by that?" And then if she meant what i thought she meant, i would calmly say, "This is why people who run businesses should have people skills. I won't be returning. Good day."

[irelady10]

Hey, I LOVE taking naps when the baby is napping- its the best...and 41 is young, imho!

[momma24rn]

I agree. Especially with RNFosterMom.
I am 41 and DH 43. We have a 2yo FS and our Bkids are in high school and college. I am so much more patient this second time around. Things dont bother me like when I was 20. I don't worry about things like I did when mine were little.
Maybe it is precisley BECAUSE I allow myself to take a little nap that I am a better parent for it!!!!!!!!

It is hard to believe the things some people say.

[kakuehl]

Ya'know, I've been thinking about it... I think that Bible-reading mother was jealous that she couldn't go take a nap. Personally I'm glad I had my kids in my 20s but I do know I'd have parented differently in my 40s. (I'm not sure I'd have been any more effective, mind you, I just know it would have been different.) Frankly, I think kids are a blessing no matter what age you are when the enter your life!

[diane beth]

Lets remember also that many women are still fertile at 41 and can and should still naturally have small children at this age.
I am 46 and I know that I am a much better and more experienced mom at this age. I get three times more done in a day now than when I was 21. When I was 21 I could barely get the dishes done because I was so spoiled and lazy. I had no clue about raising children. I spent my growing up years in school and sports. I thought the world revolved around how my Farrah Faucett hair looked that day.
I may be a little more tired these days when I hit the pillow at night but I am much more responsible now and I find it amazing that my bio dds (25yrs and 22yrs) are doing so well by the grace of God. ~di

[AmahMama]

I try real hard not to take offense at thoughtless remarks. Some people just odn't know any better. And - I'm 54 and my fk's are very luck to be with me instead of their teens and twentys bios. Let the young ones have them - and we will raise them. That's why God let us 'grow up' and gather the experience and patience that it takes to help these young ones get thru life.

Don't sweat the small stuff, keep a smile, a good attitude, and pity those who think they should be in the ranks to pass judgement.

[cabbagepatchkid]

I think that they should pass a law so that everyone can take a nap and not feel guilty about it. It's common in other countries so why not here?

Most of my foster kids are off to school tomorrow morning but when the kindergartener leaves for her 1/2 day school, after lunch, I am looking forward to having a nice nap---just me, myself and I!

[hrisme]

I'm 26, don't even have my own kids, and when the cousins munchkins go down so do I! Of course there are some health issues that go along with my fatigue, but really...any hardworking mom deserves a daily nap, and far too few actually get one!