[mayamoo]

Hi - I used to frequent here about 3 years ago when we were trying to get custody of my cousin. She is now 5 and was adopted by us 2 1/2 years ago.

Anyways - she currently has 2 full blood bio sisters in Oregon foster care. They are 2 and 3 and there is another baby girl due to be born any day now.

Meth is still an issue for my dd's birth parents. The girls will have been in foster care a year this September.

My mom talked to the girl's GAL yesterday and asked if the new baby goes into care - will they make baby a part of the same case and if so - will it keep the girls in foster care longer. GAL said that it was a possibility. Is this true? Birth parents have done nothing on their case plan and continue to use meth.

My husband and I just got our foster care license so that we are able to get custody of the girls. We have agreed to take baby also - if needed.

I am just so concerned about the girls being in foster care for so long and having a strong attatchment to their fp's. We are considering backing out of getting custody if the fp's want to adopt. But - then then my daughter will never know her siblings. I just am so torn on what is the right thing to do for everyone involved.

Thanks for any input.

Carrie

[EandDmom]

I wouldn't say they would never know their siblings. Lots of foster parents if adopting their foster kids will agree to having a relationship with siblings that are adopted by other people. Personally I would have a had time taking children after they have been with their foster parents for a year. Since they are so young that is the only family they know. But that is just me. I know other people feel the sibling bond is uber important. I know I would want them but the thought of me taking them from the only mommy and daddy they know would just be too much guilt for me to handle. I would however definetly take the newborn.
Good luck!!

[Withay]

There are times in Oregon where the siblings are put on separate cases when a new sibling is born. I know of one where one child was adopted by one relative, another by another relative and a 3rd still in care (not with either sibling).

Another case I know of had 2 sibs placed with one foster family and when a 3rd sib was born that one was placed with the same family. The two older ones were adopted by the ff and they are in the process of adopting the 3rd.

You just never know how it will go. Good luck.

[laceyc]

Is there the possiblity of keeping in contact with the siblings if they are adopted by the fp or making a deal that if the fp decide not to adopt that you will be first on the list for consideration? Have you talked to the fp's at all?

[Yash]

I would start by trying to get the fp's phone number and talk to them to see what they are thinking and more importantly what they've been told. Then make a decision based on that, maybe they are hoping to adopt the girls and the baby if he or she comes into the system or maybe they only do long term foster care.

Good luck with your decision. And congrats on finalizing your adoption.

[shaslove]

Originally Posted by Withay

There are times in Oregon where the siblings are put on separate cases when a new sibling is born. I know of one where one child was adopted by one relative, another by another relative and a 3rd still in care (not with either sibling).

Another case I know of had 2 sibs placed with one foster family and when a 3rd sib was born that one was placed with the same family. The two older ones were adopted by the ff and they are in the process of adopting the 3rd.

You just never know how it will go. Good luck.

I know this will be true with the new sib of C. She/He will be on a new case. Who knows?