[shavon]

They are horrible If you tell him no, or you cant pick him up at the exact moment that he wants you. He will stand in the middle of the floor and scream at the top of his lungs!!!

We have tried to ignore it (have you ever tried to ignore a 16 month old ) ignoring him does not help at all, he will keep it up for a very long time LOL..

Any one have any suggestions for me? This behavior has just started since unsupervised visits have started. I really dont think the 2 are related, I really just think it is his age???? Not sure though...

Please help...I think my hearing may be going LOL..he can scream really loud...

[sheababy]

Ear Plugs

We try ignoring, distraction, and putting her in a chair until she can calm down. Sometimes I have to go through all of these tactics before one works.

[dachshunds4you]

Originally Posted by sheababy

Ear Plugs

We try ignoring, distraction, and putting her in a chair until she can calm down. Sometimes I have to go through all of these tactics before one works.

Ditto! Ignore. Sometimes it takes a while for it to work, but eventually they realize they're not going to get the attn they want.
If it continues, they get sent to their room until they calm down. That usually works.

[Newshyde]

Keep ignoring. Don't give in no matter how much you want to. You might want to establish a screaming place.
With my former foster son, at about that age I got one of those kid fold-out couches. When he would start I would unfold the couch and put him on it and leave the room. Sometimes he would try to follow me and I would just go from room to room, ignoring him and getting other stuff done, like folding laundry and stuff. Eventually he would just lay on the couch until the tantrum was over.
And, i think the unsupervised visits may be having an effect. Only you can know for sure if he calms down or has more tantrums around the time of the visit.
Good luck. I know ignoring sucks sometimes but it really will work eventually.

[CaddoRose]

I put mine in their room. They are not allowed to be in any other room and have a fit because it then interferes with everyone else. If they are forced to have their tantrum in another room, then they aren't getting any attention from anyone. I will pick mine up, not a cuddle hug either, and carry them to the room and either close the door(if they are old enough) or put up the gate. I also use 1,2,3 Magic. I will tell them when they are not in a tanturm, that if they choose(and I use the word "Choose" and stress that point), to have a tantrum or scream, that I will give them to the count of 3 to stop and then they will go to their room. It can take a long time for the removal and 1,2,3, Magic to work, but I am consistent and it never, ever changes.

[smcd_fmr_attorney]

I'm there with you with my bio son! He's 16 months and has wicked tantrums. He throws himself back and kicks his feet and screams at the smallest little stimulus. Most of my friends with children of similar ages (13-20 months) have the same sorts of fits so I don't think its the visitation, its probably the age. Although, I would say that sometimes a change in routine or too much stimulus contributes the frequency of the tantrums so maybe they would lessen (but not disappear) if you make a particular structure to visitation days. You may already do something like this, but I bet if you keep it up (Ie: on visitation days he gets a particular breakfast, a special story read on the same chair, a favorite hat, and then a special song and snack when he gets back) that might help a bit.

Good luck! Like I said, we are right there with you. My son's tantrums are mostly kicking and not so much screaming, but they are still really annoying and they used to be noisier. I just lay him down in a safe spot and ignore him.

[meshsgrl]

MP3 player!!!!!
I had a 16 mo old screamer AND a 3 yr old tantrummer!!! I would ignore the screaming by putting on my headphones with my favorite music!! Believe me this screaming could go on for HOURS!!!!

[Withay]

I gently cup my hands around my sons face, look him in the eye and ask "did you forget to quit screaming?". 99% of the time it stops.

Shavon -I hear you about loud. Have you ever heard a deaf child had a screaming tantrum. They are the loudest.

[shavon]

LOL..no I have never heard a def child scream but I can only imagine...if they cant hear thierself then I am sure they can get pretty loud LOL..

I am going to try the suggestions.. I already ignore, he always wants me to hold him while I am on the computer and that was fine when he was smaller but now he just tries to push all the buttons and squirm around. Now he will just stand at my leg and scream bloody murder..

We will get thru this I have noticed that he has more fits the day of and day after visits.. Also since unsupervised visits has started everytime someone comes to the house he is very clingy and wont leave our side.. I guess he is afraid that ill send him with any one that comes within 5 feet of him...poor dude, he just dont understand that his bio dad does love him and that he HAS to go wheather he wants to or not