[Ashley-n-D]

Theres this woman I grew up with that went to jail on child support on her oldest and cps took her son that she had custody of while she was in jail. She was pregnant at the time. They told her that she could not have her son C back until she was working and not living with her mother. Well after getting out of Jail preg complications made it immpossible for her to get a job. She had baby A and as soon as he was born the CW asked for Termination even though her only problem was job and housing. They even tryed convicing the woman that she should sign off telling her that they have evidence that C has fetal alcohol syndrome and that they were going to get her on abuse. C does NOT have fas. I know for a fact that he doesnt because this woman's biological mother died in a car wreck while drinking and driving when she was 4 . This woman has never not once drank alcohol she loathes it.

She got a job shortly before the termination hearing and an apartment And had done everything they asked but they still wanted termination. Judge said they were crazy but put Ru at discretion of DHS. Its been months since the judge said send them home and they have only given her unsupervised 3 days a week for 3 hrs and the cw just told her that they would not even think about overnights until after the next hearing which will be almost august. Is 5 months from completing the case plan normal for RU?

We tend to believe that the CW doesnt want her to have them back and is trying to grasp at straws. The CW on this case was also the CW that managed her and her brothers case when thier mother died. They went to live with her mothers sister and The CW came by frequently and got a general distaste for the family even once telling the Children that ever member of their family should be sterilzed. She has tryed getting a different CW assigned to her boys but nobody will listen. Anyone else see a parent get generalized against because of the family thier from ?

[stevenstwin]

I suppose it is possible for CW's to have all sorts of agendas of their own - but I'll admit that is a strange one, since usually the bias seems to go the other direction. The system is strongly geared toward RU, so I'm not sure how long a CW opposed to RU in general would survive.... I always wonder in cases like this how much of the full story we don't know!

[Scrapsathome]

My aunt had a difficult time convincing the CW that she deserved to get her infant son back. He was taken at birth from the hospital because his mom was a drug addict. She had to really fight hard and do every single thing possible to prove that she was determined to change her life and raise her son. He'd already been placed with a pre-adoptive family. My aunt used to walk miles and hitch rides to make sure she could make it to every single appointment to see him. She never missed one, no matter what. She didn't get him back until he was seven months old. She actually felt bad because the adoptive family was extremely nice and clearly loved her son.

I'm glad it worked out. My aunt is fantastic, a great mom. My cousin is 33 now and has lived a really good life. My aunt is one of those people who works her tail off, holding down multiple jobs to be able to provide the best for her family. She was just young and needed help. She came from a very disfunctional family.

Tell your friend to hang in there and keep doing everything possible to prove how important her kids are to her. It'll work out.

Jess

[jllambert]

So this woman had already lost custody of the older child/children? It really sounds like there is much more to this story!

I have never seen a CW fight against RU when the parents are working their service plan (even when they felt sure kids would come back into care). Most know it is a done deal if case plan is worked, because judge will order the state to return the kids if they complete services. If this case worker is fighting so hard maybe it is because they are very concerned about the well being of the child if it is returned to mom!

I hope mom continues to do what is asked of her, and makes positive changes in her life so she can love and provide for her children!! If she does this & does it in the time frame they have set for her then I feel like she will get her child back despite what the CW wants. Remember the judge it the one who makes the decision to return the child not the CW!!

[carlychan]

There is probably more to the story than you know. That is my guess.