[Yes2Kids]

Well here I sit this morning with empty arms and a empty heart...our baby went back to BD yesterday. Judge ordered at first hearing, he left birthmom, so they let him have baby...hmmm..reakon he really left her. I am happy, I know baby deserves his family, hopefully bd is serious.

How do you get soo attached in just two weeks??? I miss him soo much. I know with small babies this happens a lot, and I know we will get a call for another baby who needs a loving home..but does it really replace this baby I fell in love with so quickly?? This is my first lose of a baby, sorry I am probably rambling..just trying to sort this out. Is it worth it...if i feel this way after only two weeks, man, I can't imagine the pain after a year or more as is sometimes is..

[lovingmommy]

I know how you are feeling.....my 3 fc left a month ago today and I am still very lost without them...they were with me for 7 months and the time they were here the days just flew by now time is just draging..... I pray to get a call soon for a new placement....I will never forget the 3 children that I had but I think it would help to heal the broken heart once we get a new placement...

[7brats]

I have been there.Mine were pulled while I was at work 3 months ago and I am still sad about it.They were with me for 6 months through all the major holidays,Thanksgiving,Christmas and New Years so I have lots of great memories. This weekend I get to see them to say good-bye and while I am excited to see them after 3 months a I know it will be like losing them all over again.
For me it would be good to get another placement but my phone will not ring at all. For me that makes the separation ven harder.
Just letting you know that you are not alone in how you are feeling.

[greenrobin]

Will you love a new baby? Absolutely.

Will a new baby replace the one who has gone. Absolutely not.

But it is okay. You grieve and move on, but you never quite get over it. But you're still able to love a new one.

[luvmykids4]

I know how you are feeling. Our foster daughter was with us from birth to 6 months. Everyone was sure it woiuld lead to adoption, but instead she was sent home to unprepared parents with a long history of issues. Our caseworker still thinks she will come back in care. I still miss her, and cry when I think about her. We have another little girl ( 16 months old ), whom we've had for 3 months. It helps a little, but we still miss our other fd. I think our new fd will return home, but even if she stayed, I would still miss our first foster baby. I think we'll always love her, and wish her well. I believe that the right kids will stay with us, so I just remind myself of that. I can relate to your feeling of it being worth it. It does seem like that sometimes, but just remind yourself of the need you met at the time you did. Blessings will come back to you. Good luck.

[Mkap]

I'm sorry you are hurting and believe me when I say, I've been there and I know how you feel. We got into fostering b/c we wanted to adopt. We weren't prepared for the emotional toll it would take on our hearts. In the past year we have had three babies and two left within two weeks of arriving. I remember baby "E" was 5 months, she was the sweetest baby I had ever seen or met. We fell instantly in love. But after two weeks she went to live with a family member. I cried and cried and cried. I felt so empty. The very next morning the county called with another baby, a newborn. With our hearts still aching we agreed to take in baby "A" and here it is, 10 1/2 months later and we love her as if we had born her from our own bodies. We are in the process of preparing for her departure. We are so sad - words can't describe the sorrow. We thought we would adopt her but obviously that isn't meant to be. Will we foster again, yes. Will we love again, yes. Will we get hurt again, yes. But we heal. And we each take something special away from our fostering experiences. Take peace in knowing that you loved your foster baby and helped them when they needed you. I'm sorry I don't have any other words to offer. Hang in there and know it will get better in time.

[RNFosterMom]

I'm sorry for your loss. I've been there, and will soon be there again. It is very hard when they leave. You won't forget them, and even if they don't remember you, they are better off for receiving the loving care you provided.

[Yes2Kids]

Thank you all for your words, it really helps to know I am not alone. I know why we do this , and yes I will do it again..and yes will probably be hurt again, but I know there will be another child who will need our love and care too.

[DoYaReallyThink]

Yes2kids, I am so sorry for how you feel! After our first sib set we thought we would never feel the same. Well, we do and these are leaving. It's such a deep ach. I am so greatful for having had these children in my life. It's ok to grieve over them. It's ok to love the next.

Peace be with you!