[RNFosterMom]

I was just about to give FC a bottle before naptime Sunday afternoon when the phone rang. It was Bio Mom, who never ID's herself when she calls, and husband just handed phone to me. She said she was calling to wish me a Happy Mother's Day and I was so taken aback that I really didn't know what to say -- and can't recall much of what I did say, other than "uh,....thanks." I'm pretty sure I didn't say "Happy Mother's Day to you too." I did put the phone to FC's ear so she could say a few words and otherwise our conversation was brief.

I feel so bad that I didn't think to wish her Happy Mother's Day. My husband said she really just felt bad about not having her child on Mother's Day and wanted to talk to her child, which is probably absolutely correct, but I wish I would have had my wits about me and said it anyway! I am so unsentimental (and apparently clueless) that honestly it never occurred to me to say this to anyone except my own Mom!

So anyway, after this I sent husband to store to buy Mother's Day cards and finger paints and we are going to make hand print cards from the babies for their Moms for their visits this week. I guess this is one of many unexpected lessons I will get about how to be a foster mom as we go along on this journey!

[beccals2]

That was very thoughtful of her. I'm sure the bio moms had a difficult day yesterday and the cards will mean a lot.

I had my foster son make a clay mold of his hand prints for his bio mom. She didn't show for their visit last week and she cancelled this week's visit. I don't really want to give it to her since by the time we see her next, Mother's Day will be so long ago. But yet...I will.

[shavon]

Aww..dont beat yourself up too bad.. It was sweet that she called to tell you happy mothers day, it shows that she cares about who is taking care of her chld

My soon to be adopted daughters mom was in a mental health facility, she slit her wrists last week so they moved her to a psych ward (I thought the mental health facility was a psych ward???) Any way I called the hospital to wish her a happy mothers day, it saddened me that she was not there any more as I have no way of contacting her any more.

Why is it that I want to take her under my wing and try to make things easier for her???? I think mothers day coming up is what caused the "accident"...

[akcskye]

A mental health facility is for those that have issues to deal with, but do not at the time show warning signs of harming themselves or others.

A psych ward is more of a "lockdown" situation where you do pose a threat to yourself and others, and is essentially like a jail.

Originally Posted by shavon

Aww..dont beat yourself up too bad.. It was sweet that she called to tell you happy mothers day, it shows that she cares about who is taking care of her chld

My soon to be adopted daughters mom was in a mental health facility, she slit her wrists last week so they moved her to a psych ward (I thought the mental health facility was a psych ward???) Any way I called the hospital to wish her a happy mothers day, it saddened me that she was not there any more as I have no way of contacting her any more.

Why is it that I want to take her under my wing and try to make things easier for her???? I think mothers day coming up is what caused the "accident"...

[chevyjewel]

What a beautiful gesture, on both your parts!!! I'm so glad you shared it. I love your handprint idea, I'm so going to steal that idea in the future











On a side note - shavon...really??? What on earth possessed you to interject THAT into this thread? Not to mention wouldn't that be considered private medical information? I'd be beyond mortified, not to mention enraged, if someone involved in a case dealing with the welfare of my children disclosed to God knows how many other people that I was not only struggling with mental health issues but also that I'd attempted to take my own life and was forced to move to a psych ward...I just have no clue where that fits in here, or why it would be necessary to share that with others at all...

[Janeytwo]

Dear RN Fostermom,

I feel so bad that I didn't think to wish her Happy Mother's Day.

Please don't feel bad about that "RN". It was your Mother's Day for you to enjoy.

I can't speak to the motives of the bmom. It could be she genuinely wanted to wish you a Happy Mother's Day.

But if that was not her intent, it certainly is mine.

Hope you had a wonderful day with many more to come!

Much peace your way!

[vegaschristina]

Originally Posted by chevyjewel

On a side note - shavon...really??? What on earth possessed you to interject THAT into this thread? Not to mention wouldn't that be considered private medical information? I'd be beyond mortified, not to mention enraged, if someone involved in a case dealing with the welfare of my children disclosed to God knows how many other people that I was not only struggling with mental health issues but also that I'd attempted to take my own life and was forced to move to a psych ward...I just have no clue where that fits in here, or why it would be necessary to share that with others at all...

Well, since we don't "know" exactly who Shavon is...and we don't "know" who the bio-mom of her soon-to-be-adopted child is...then it's not private medical information. It's information posted on a website without any identifying information which is not in any way a breach of confidentiality.

[chevyjewel]

Originally Posted by vegaschristina

Well, since we don't "know" exactly who Shavon is...and we don't "know" who the bio-mom of her soon-to-be-adopted child is...then it's not private medical information. It's information posted on a website without any identifying information which is not in any way a breach of confidentiality.

I suppose you're right. Maybe I was just more sensitive to it because I chose personally to be more discrete with my families cases.

[shavon]

Ackskye....Thanks for clearing that up..I was really confused..I hope she gets the help she needs. She is a very good person, she just has a lot of mental issues that she is dealing with.

I am going to call again in a few days and see if I can reach her, when I do I will send her mothers day card to her.


Vegaschristina----thanks for standing up for me in my absense lol...


Chevyjewel....If I crossed some invisible line when I posted what I did then I am sorry..sometimes I dont think before I type what is on my mind...It was hard hearing what bio mom did, I care deeply about her and her well being, she is the mother of my soon to be adopted daughter and I would never say anything to her that would hurt her and if I thought for one minute that she might read these boards then I wouldnt post any thing at all.. So sorry if I wrote something that I shouldnt have...

Shavon..

[chevyjewel]

I pmed you shavon...it's all good on my end...sorry I came across so harsh

[birdiebabee]

I thought of this post as I took the boys to their visit today. I wondered what mom would say. Over the weekend we had them make ceramic hand marks. The older two we actually used both steps and their hand prints came out 3d on the plaster heart! For the baby we just made the plaster heart then put his hand print on it with paint. The boys all fingerpainted the hearts and we gave it to birthmom today at their visit. She hugged me and told me Happy Mother's Day. Now birthmom attends all the kids' appointments so we have formed a relationship. She knows we don't have our own children and she knows her boys are the only FC we have so it really warmed my heart when she told me that.