[thelowlanders]

Out of all the unusual parenting situations that come up when fostering, what is the best thing you've learned since you've started? Or how have you grown from your not so average day to day experiences?

[Withay]

Do NOT react to negative behaviors such as head banging. It only reinforces it.

[Mystik]

That emotionally I can handle so much for than I ever thought possible.

[michsm]

That there can always be a worse day so make everyday the best day you can.

[shazwott]

that every child is unique, and you can love each of them for very different reasons

[kxl164]

That, this too shall pass - sometime knowing tomorrow is a new day can help you get through the mess you are in today!

[faithlovehope09]

Take One Day At A Time!!!!!!!!

[4monkeys]

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

[chevyjewel]

The best thing I've learned so far is how to love the ones that come and go but keep my heart in a place that recognizes these are not my kids and they're not going to stay forever.

That and not to judge their parents for the issues they're dealing with - most of them anyway. I am still human after all and I do have my limits as far as what is completely reprehensible IMO.

Initially, just starting out, this is something I struggled with immensely and it made the process so much tougher to deal with.

[thelowlanders]

I agree. It helps me to meet the parents in person and grow to care for them. Hope and pray for them. Even as I'm frustrated with them for letting their child down time and time again.

I learned how important support is to humans. Having the right people in your life. Realizing that these biofamilies aren't always surrounded with well meaning family and friends to encourage them. Sometimes they're really on their own to do what's right. It's not as easy "black and white" for them to get life together as I originally thought.

[c.a]

I will not immediately "love" every child. Some of them will have habits/behaviors that will get under anyone's skin. It is okay.

and: essential supplies: macaroni and cheese, milk, applesauce, baby tylenol, juice and wipes - lots of wipes. So long as you have those, you can get through the day.

[bluebird38]

It's important to realize that you do have limits to what you can handle. Sometimes, your family is not the best family for a child. It is important to remember that and remember that sometimes doing what is best for a child doesn't always make you feel the best, but you will heal and be glad that you did what was best for the child.

[AmyAnne]

That my son has been blessed with an empathy and love of animals.