[greenrobin]

The drama continues.

But then isn't that normal around here?

The sw who supervises visits is refusing to transport Bubba the amazing Drama Boy. Seems his "fit throwing behaviors" (direct quote!) would be too much for her to control on that long, long drive. Ah, yes. How silly of me. Foster children are generally so well mannered.

Golly gee.

But, the sw, who is the sw supervisor at their office, has arranged our visits for early evening to minimize the time we have to take off of school. And that really is something.

Big news, however, came from CASA.

Bubba and Sissy's grandfather had petitioned for custody and is currently having as much visit time as mom. His homestudy began way back in April of last year. Again, there were some serious oversights in this case, so it was just completed.

According to CASA, it was not approved and there are several very valid reasons why not.

Yay? I am feeling ambivalent. Yeah, I know, right? I would like to be very happy. And I am--for me. For my kids, not so much. In fact, heck no. They love him and he loves them. He's just not safe--alcohol, domestic violence, CPS from when mom was a little girl. And so I"m sad. And happy.

So much of this is bittersweet.

Now bring on April, doggone it. Let's get it finished so these babies can start healing for real!

[ca-bigsister]

I'm glad at least that there was some compromise.

Yeah for April when you can get some control back for the kids.

[AmahMama]

Yes, it is bittersweet news... but that is also why we don't say things like "your gpa is getting a homestudy done". this way the children do not have to know that it was denied and especially, the reasons why. Foster kids have their childhoods ripped away to fast as it is ...

Just a small point.... the dept CANNOT refuse to transport. Call a supervisor or whoever is further up the chain.... It is thier responsibility to make sure that judge ordered visits are carried out. It is not your place to have to transport many miles - unless of course you want to. I try to do my own transport too - unless it is several counties away (and in FL that is often the case) - mostly just so the kids will know that they aren't being left there. And to try really hard to make things feel as normal as we can.

So anyway, just wanted to check in and let you know . . .

[bethy724]

It is bittersweet - I wasn't up for rejoicing when my sons bio mom sat crying signing reliquishment papers. It's so happy for the new family & the future of the children but you know somebody is suffering out there even if they brought it on themselves & let innocent children be abused-tears are tears.

All you can do is keep positive thoughts of grandpa in their lives (maybe pictures in a life book to look at whenever they want) & move forward w/ your new family!