[naca]

I'm cross-posting this b/c I'm not sure how many ppl actually go to the foster/adopt section.. I know I'm guilty of just coming here LOL!

We are in the process of getting our AD's full sister. She's in TX and we're in IN. At this point neither girl knows about the other's existence, they've never met ect. The CW there is planning on introducing our family with a picture and going from there. Our AD knows she's adopted but we haven't brought up siblings at this point b/c she's only 4 (turning 4 soon anyway) and figured it'd be too confusing.

I need help coming up with questions to ask about *L*. I know she is very bonded to her current family and will have a difficult time leaving them.. This breaks my heart, I'd completely let her stay to avoid her pain vs having her here but the adoptive mom feels she's getting too old to adopt. From what I've gotten so far from the CW she appears to be on track for her age & has only mild behavior issues- tantrums when not getting her way, but she is the baby of the family currently with many older foster sisters.

Cw asked for any suggestions I might have on transitioning as well..

Thoughts??

[Withay]

Pictures are a great way to 'introduce' the sisters to each other. You can then 'step it up' with videos. I would also recommend sending pictures of you, dh, sister and your birth children so AD's sister can know what you look like. Then move on to phone calls so she can hear all your voices. Start with you and dh and then add in the other kids.

A transisiton should be taken slowly, over the course of a few months to let sister get used to the idea of moving away from her ff.

[naca]

Thanks for the input Withay! I agree it should be slow, I dont want to cause her anymore distress than necessary!