[posh]

last year my dh and I took the pride classes and completed them. we do have our certificates of completion but that is as far as we took it at the time. they wanted us to take teens and I just didn't think I could handle the teens. so here is the where the help comes in. a girl we know ran off and left her 2 little ones with grandma several months ago. grandma is not the most stable person and has no place of her own and 2 weeks before christmas the kids ended up being taken away from her. we don't know why. what do you think our chances are of getting the kids? we very much want the kids.

[Yash]

I don't think it would hurt to try. Let your fingers do the walking and find out who the CW is and let her know you're interested in fostering the kids and that you have a relationship with the family. The worst the CW can say is no.

[posh]

oh thanks yash. the kids and grandma use to live with my daughter and her husband so it is a close relationship there. do you think they would allow my daughter to keep 1 and me keep 1? they would see each other all the time. we both really want to take the kids if at all possible. thanks hon

[ncsingledad]

I would think they'd like the siblings to stay together if at all possible. Hopefully you'll get them!

[posh]

errrrrrrrr I am frustrated now! this I think is part of the reason friends and some families may not get the children taken into care! I called dfcs this morning and asked for the cw that has the children. they won't give me the info! they said the family has to give me the name of the cw otherwise there is nothing they can do! what???? now how do people get that info when the family won't give it? those poor children!

[JessicaBaker]

I agree that they'll want to keep the kids together. However, if you have a prior relationship with these kids AND you've already done PRIDE training I would think you have a decent shot of having them placed with you.

And I would go ahead and finish up your foster home study if fostering is something you feel called to do. You do not have to take teens, there are plenty of other children in need of homes despite what anyone may tell you.

[minibus]

I think that you should call and say you want to leave a message for "the assigned CW for A and B". That way, they don't have to tell you who the CW is ... but can just pass along the message. Say something like "My name is X, I understand A and B are in state care and am interested in providing a home for them. We have Pride training completed ... blah blah. Please call me at (phone number)."

That way, they don't have to release confidential information as to whether or not the kids are in fact, in care, and they don't have to tell you who the worker is, but will hopefully pass along your message. Hope that helps!

[posh]

thanks jessica. I have thought about it recently.

[posh]

minibus that is a great idea! the supervisor did tell me she did not see them in the system but I know they are there. this particular county is not real cooperative it seems.