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Old 12-22-2008, 07:48 PM
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Family Not Passing HS??

I keep reading in different threads about bio family not being able to pass a home study. I was wondering how they cannot pass a homestudy? I am sure there are a lot of different reasons, but passing a home study to me seems pretty easy so I have a hard time thinking of a reason a bio family member wouldn't be able to pass.

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I am interested in hearing more replies but I have read on here several times that one reason why a hs was denied was cause there was an individual living in the home that was not ok.

That probably means they have a criminal record of some kind or maybe even a sex crime history, etc..
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There are many reasons. For example:

1 - Someone who is not to have contact with the children is living in the home

2 - Someone in the home has a conviction of a "crime against a person"

3 - The home itself is not habitable (should be condemned)

These are but a few of the reasons it can happen.
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It could also be that they already have their hands full with their current children's needs etc. Their home could be to small to actually house the additional children or their income couldn't support additional children without subsidy.
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The Gmom of our kids did not pass because she lied to the investigator and they found out later. Her husband had 3 police calls in the last 3 yrs,he also had admitted drug use until 3 years before(too close in time frame), adult daughter had assault charges, and she didn't have approved childcare for the weekends when she works.

I guess there could be a multitude of reasons just like for any parents trying to foster or adopt. There can be issues with the home, in that there isn't sufficient room, or it isn't up to code. The person may have issues that come out in the interview that bring up red flags for the investigator, like past child abuse to them, or issues that may make it difficult for them to parent the child.

Many parents that have children in care come form families that lack parenting skills, or have mental illness or other issues involving parenting and decision making that would cause them to fail. Most investigators that do home studies know what questions to ask and how to ask them to get the answers they need. Not with the intent of failing someone, but with the intent of finding out if the person is able to parent and provide a secure, safe home for the child.
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Gma of my child didn't pass because the room Lil Buddy would've stayed in wasn't good. Basically a closet with a mattress on the floor. And because she had no childcare plan other than to leave him with his bio father.
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I failed my Homestudy before it even got started. My Father and Brother gave bad references, without telling me, apparently they thought I would never find out. When I confronted them, my brother claimed he didn't like my partner (he later signed a letter of declaration stating he thought I would make an ideal parent) and my father claimed he was worried about my health (he signed a letter as well, but had to add how he didn't know me very well). I seriously suspect it was because they found out I might adopt a non-caucasian child. The denial is going to make future licensing a bit interesting...
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Gma in our case had 8 reasons listed as to why she failed the home study, and none of them were about the actual home! She has DWI histoy, Domestic Violence history, CPS case history, there was an open investigation due to her 16 yr old accusing her husband of sexual abuse, the person doing the home study felt she was very dishonest, & she would not provide information and contact numbers on the husband(not in the home at the time due to the SA out cry) or her adult children.
I think usually it is not one thing that makes a person fail the home study, but
a bunch of different things!
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The reason that several of my kids' relatives did not pass was that they were mentally ill themselves, and either weren't medicated or weren't stable on their medication. Another reason was that some of them had lost other children to the system---so they were automatically disqualified as placement resources.
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Let's see. DWI, domestic violence, allowing unsupervised contact with mom and dad, having that contact result in injury to the child, multiple police calls to the residence, bad psych evals, unsafe home, arrests within the recent past, CPS history--including having had their own child removed to foster care--there are lots of reasons to fail.
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an aunt wanted to take my FS but was rejected because of age. He was 14 at that point, and very difficult, and she was only 22. It was decided that with her age combined with his issues, and the fact that she was single, she wouldn't be successful with him. Which shows otherwise perfectly acceptable people can still fail a home study for several reasons. She might very well have passed if HIS needs had not be so extensive. (ironic side note - when he was six, they DID give him to an uncle with a history of schizophrenia, alcoholism, and domestic violence, whose own kids had already been removed twice. Go figure!)
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my f-daughter's older sister wanted custody, she did not pass the homestudy. she's young, just had a baby of her own, does not work, her live-in boyfriend was in and out of juvenile justice as a teen-ager.
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2 of my nephews maternal aunts were denied to get him as a placement.

One of them is only 23 (single) and has 5 kids of her own aged 5 and younger. They felt she already had her hands full.

The other got denied because she had no stable home or income. Essentially she bounced around from family member to family member living off them.
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Age and health can be another factor (especially with grandparents and great grandparents). Great Grandma may be the only person in the family without a record but that doesn't mean she will be able to take care of the kids. My FS great grandma told bio mom she was going to get him and "take him to Mexico to give to a Mexican woman to raise." That kind of put her out of the running
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