[Withay]

It seems that in the last month or so there has been a steady increase in the amount of hostility on this forum. May I remind everyone that the name of the forum is Foster Parent Support.

I don't know about you, but I am getting tired of all the bickering going on. It is making it very hard to read some of the threads. So often now, it seems, the original question or comment of a thread is lost by members picking apart a statement and getting into huge debates that turn increasingly ugly as they go on.

Sure, there are going to be times when we don't agree with what is being said. Almost everyday I read something that I don't agree with. Disagreeing with someone does not give me, or anyone the right to be disrespectful.

Please, remember in the a.com TOS it says:

Respectful Participation Required: While we encourage members to share from their experiences, we do ask that you do so in a manner that is both kind and respectful to the person you are responding to. Please remember that Adoption is a very emotional topic for most all of our participants in one way or another. There is a big difference between offering a differing opinion and kicking the dog while its down. We ask that all members be sensitive to the differing emotions in adoption and not use the forums as a platform to promote an agenda which is not supportive of our members or adoption.

No personal attacks: Personal attacks of any kind, public of private, will not be tolerated. Adoption.com chat rooms, message boards and journals are intended to be a positive, safe place for everyone. You are welcome to disagree with a member, but calling them names or flaming their character is not allowed. If you have a personal issue to discuss with a member, please take it off the boards and discuss it via PM.

Lively discussions are fine, encouraged even as we all can learn from one another, but respect has always been, is now and always will be expected for participation.

[vegaschristina]

Thanks for the reminder.

[Withay]

bumping up

[Sam-N-Tony]

I say all the hostility is Santa's fault! LOL.

[Withay]

Thanks for the smile Sam. I needed it.

[thelowlanders]

Thank you

[potentialsinglemom]

Originally Posted by Withay

It seems that in the last month or so there has been a steady increase in the amount of hostility on this forum. May I remind everyone that the name of the forum is Foster Parent Support.

I don't know about you, but I am getting tired of all the bickering going on. It is making it very hard to read some of the threads. So often now, it seems, the original question or comment of a thread is lost by members picking apart a statement and getting into huge debates that turn increasingly ugly as they go on.

Sure, there are going to be times when we don't agree with what is being said. Almost everyday I read something that I don't agree with. Disagreeing with someone does not give me, or anyone the right to be disrespectful.

Please, remember in the a.com TOS it says:



Lively discussions are fine, encouraged even as we all can learn from one another, but respect has always been, is now and always will be expected for participation.

Whew....What took you so long.
It is getting sad when you have to beg for forgiveness before you complete your post because you know someone might jump on you and missed the ENTIRE point of the original thread.

Thank you Withay

[elizabeth_ann]

Glad to see this ... I'm a lurker and never posted before. Dh and I are in the process of becoming foster/adopt parents (hopefully eventually a BIG family!!), and some of the arguments on here kind of scared me from ever posting . I feel better now after seeing this and the thread to help with the Christmas presents!

[Withay]

Welcome Elizabeth Ann. Because we are a passionate bunch we sometimes need reminders to play nice. Please don't be scared away we really are a nice bunch of people.

[blubutterflies03]

I told ya'll it was falalala season! Stress, Santa....watch out he is watching you! Betta be good or you are gonna get a coal in your stocking!!!

[waited2long]

Originally Posted by blubutterflies03

I told ya'll it was falalala season! Stress, Santa....watch out he is watching you! Betta be good or you are gonna get a coal in your stocking!!!

You know, with the price of heating nowadays, I could really use some free coal!!

[Withay]

Good one waited.

[crick]

Thank you Whithay as always for your dedication to your forum. I truly appreciate all that you do for us here at Adoption.Com and your ability to diffuse situations and encourage others.

Crick