[greenrobin]

Maybe another world--as opposed to the underworld!

Bubb is ramping up the behaviors. He'd pretty much given up kicking the dogs, but he just spent a goodly amount of time mulling over the error of his ways. It cost him a trip to the zoo, because the zoo is all about the animals and if you're mean to one, you don't get to go. He was raging and throwing shoes around his room.

I went up and told him, not very nicely , that he could scream all he wanted, but he was not trashing his room. So, because of my ugly face, he listened. We had a 45 min bellow. Then I told him he must need a nap because he was obviously tired. So, to my surprise, he covered up and rested.

He hasn't seen his mom since September. They're reinstating visits next week (2 hours) and TPR trial is next month! Sissy is being a toot, but she's 3. Tootiness is part of the deal!

I'm just trying to breathe and be calm.

It's nothing major, just annoying.

Gotta vent somewhere!

[Withay]

Vent away. Sounds like you need some serious .

It seems, to me anyway, that starting visits now when TPR is scheduled for next month and mom hasn't seen kids in at least 2+ months is a bad idea. Of course, it could be that the cw is making sure that mom can't come back at the TPR trial and say that she wasn't allowed to see her kids in over 3 months.

I hope things calm down for the rest of the day.

[greenrobin]

Thanks, Withay.

There were some pretty serious issues with the last sw and they wanted to back up and make sure that bios had no recourse, I guess. The end result is that no one is really sure how TPR will go, although everyone is acting like it'll all be okay. So, to the visits we go.

The bad part is that it's a 1 1/2 hour drive each way. And, the transport agency is wanting to bring the bios to US! I'm a little hesitant to agree to that. They don't know where we live yet and I'd like to keep it that way.

Maybe I"m being a little over cautious, but they aren't exactly on the regular side of the law. I'd just as soon maintain my privacy.

Just a bit of stress.

Thanks again.

[blubutterflies03]

If they do the visits by you, can ya'll do it by McDonalds instead of your house. I feel for you and the kids. The kids will probably act out after the visits. 2 of mine are headed to TPR, we are waiting for the court date....and the biomom just got out of jail and the visits started up again after 8 months of not seeing her!!! Talk about having to talk to the kids. One of them was talking about when they go home, etc. We had to sit and explain just because they were seeing their mom again did not necessarily mean they were going home.

Good luck! Some days I think I may go crazy, but the older girls tell me I am already there......

[greenrobin]

Blu, one of the issues was that all visits had been at McDonalds! The state has decided that the visits cannot be properly supervised in so public a venue.

I tend to agree. Bubba has remarked that his mom is fun to play with on more than 1 occasion. I think they want to see the interaction without the excitement of the playland. Mom goes up in the tubes with the kids and plays like she's one of them. The supervising person can't go up there, too. When we came home, we heard all kinds of interesting things............

By the way, you and I have kids of common ages. My girls are 24 and 22 and I have sons who are nearly 21 and newly 13.

Yep, my grown kids tell me it's too late for me to go crazy, too!

[Withay]

I would tell DHS that you do NOT want the visits anywhere near your home. I would rather drive the 1-1/2 hr each way to keep the family from knowing where I live if they have issues with the law.