[lilmamaof2]

Well our agency called today, and said current FM is trying to fight them on moving the kids. So now they have to go thru all the paper work and give her a letter i writing about moving them. Our CW said they have never had to move a child because of the way a FP acts. So what does that say about this women? I am just so frustrated, so now they say be prepaired because she might get on one of her wild wyms and say move them now at anygiven momment, or she might wait out the process in hope to try and change the agencies mind. But they have said there is no room for there mids to be changed. I am just wondering has anyone else had to deal with this? Sorry so long just needed to vent.. Thanks...

[jphollen]

Something like this happened to us once. Got the call for two kids. The fp's were allegedly complaining a lot about them (I always wonder when the agency says this but anyway). They wanted us to take them for the weekend and if it worked out have them move in the next week... Well on the Friday they were supposed to come they said never mind. FP's don't want respite and don't want them moved. Haven't heard a word since.

Hang in there. I guess it depends on how bad the agency wants them moved.

[lilmamaof2]

Well we know for sure they are coming. The agency told her and I that it is not an option for them to stay with her. So now they said that they have to put it writing just to cover the rules. It is just waiting now to see if she is going to hold out to the day that they are due to move here,or if she is going to just get so ticked that she tells them to just take them now. This is not anything new, she calls the agency ALL the time to move them. So CW is hoping that that will happen now. They are not happy about all of this. I just am ready to get them here and settled as much as possible before the holidays. So I will just wait now to get the call to come pick them up. CW said that they will call as soon as she either calls and says move them ow or as soon as the papers say they are going to be moved. I just don't see how she could talk so bad about hem to CW and want them moved then now she is like NO.. Not only that but when I did respite for her in October, I was trying to inforce our rules and the oldest(7) kept saying she doesn't do that. So I asked her and the response that I got floored me. She told the girls (5&7) if ther is no blood dont tell me about it. How wrong is that? Well thanks again...

[kxl164]

"She told the girls (5&7) if ther is no blood dont tell me about it. How wrong is that?"

--- I wouldn't judge this too harshly, when my girls are bickering (they are the same age) I'm sure I've said the same thing at some point in time. I firmly believe that kids should try and work out their problems themselves first, and then if they can't come and find either me or their father, or another appropriate adult. This, however, can be easily misconstrued as a lack of care of discipline instead of a chance to teach a little self-control and accountablility and understand that you have to solve your problems yourself.

My girls, mostly, are not aggressive with each other. I think there may have been some hair pulling and pushing, but all physcial aggression gets put an end to right away. But if you asked my girls what happens when they "fight" they will tell you that they have to figure out a way to get along themselves, and my 5 yo will say that we only tell Mommy if it is a "huge really serious problem" which, to her, means she isn't getting her own way, and to her sister means that her sister isn't listening at all.

Here, the agency is required to give written notice and at least 7 days for a FP to be ready for a child to be moved, but like your agency it is rare that they have to do it.

I'm sure they will be there soon.