[jeavesmom]

Well we go to court next week and Bio decides she wants to visit this weekend ,Has not seen kiddos in months ,missed visits,not even done drug tested like supposed to ,just got a job and who knows where she is living .
It just makes me so mad that she thinks just because we go to court next week that she can up and visit and that will make her look good . The kids have been with us since November last year and she has made a joke of everything !

[shycar]

Im so sorry. I know how you feel. Our fd has tpr on Wed. Dad was mia for 4 months and mom longer. Three weeks ago he pops up and wants her and now sw is going to put tpr on hold and ask for two more months to see how it goes . I will pray that things go well in court for you.

[Singlemom619]

Sigh I've been there.

Usually it's a family member that finds out about court and puts the pressure on the Bparent to see the child.

I had a Bmom suddenly show up because she found out that FS (then 2) was calling me Mom. HE called me mom on his own, his brother called me "Ms. ____" so it wasn't like he was just copying someone. A relative told her he called me mom, she got mad and wanted a visit.

She showed up 2 times, and then no-showed 4 times before they cancelled them. He didn't know who she was, didn't interact with her or respond to her (turned to SW to show her things)... BUT those 4 visits that he was dragged down to DSS and then returned 10 minutes later because she didn't show he would act out... Not sure if he knew it was HER or he was mad becasue the SW wouldn't let him "play with the blocks" like he wanted to....

[forever14230]

Oh no! That's one of the aspects of fostering that scares me. I'll be praying that things go well for you in court.

[Boulderbabe]

Well, from a legal standpoint, her visiting is a big "Whatever." Like "whatever, we have to let you visit, but this isn't going to change one tiny thing about the TPR we're about to unleash."

It's just that it's awfully hard on the kids...

[blubutterflies03]

It must be her guilt-trip on herself, and now the kids have to endure a visit. I am not saying that visits are not good, but if a bio parent is not going to be consistant it is really confusing for the children.

With our Pinkdancer and Spiderman, the case is going to adoption, but TPR has not happened yet. The birthmom is finally out of jail and she wants to know why her time is up?? I have seen it in all the kids I have had in my home where the parents drag their feet, and then they decide to pull a last ditch effort.

I hope the best.