[klriggins]

One of the new 3 ( i guess they arent new anymore), needs help. And i dont know where to start.

He was removed from his previous home due to sexual abuse there. Nothing has happened, they are treating it like maybe it didnt really happen, better safe than sorry. Now he is trying to act out sexually with his brother.

I'm devastated for him because it confirms suspicious and he will have to deal with this his whole life. I'm terrified for the rest of the children in my home, and I feel lost.

Obviously this needs to be reported to the case manager, but she really already knows and nothing has been done.

Please help.

[TxMom65]

In our area, when a child acts out sexually they try to have them as either only or youngest in a home, or they up their level and they have to be supervised all the time.

All I can say is keep making noise about it. Call the hotline even.

[jphollen]

Our former fd was sexually abused. She was removed from her adoptive placement because she and bio brother were (around the same age) acting out sexually.

Totally agree with TxMom65 your going to need a "safety plan" these kids cannot be left alone for even a minute with other children because of the potential that the could act out on other children. The vast majority don't have any concept that it's wrong or it hurts others. The are just doing what they know. Which unfortunately for everyone makes it no less easier to deal with.

Great idea on using the hotline too.

[athikers]

We had this with a child who was violent but not sexual. She was in my line of sight from the moment she woke up until the moment she went to bed. She was never, never left alone with the younger ones. It sucked and was quite possibly the longer 4 months of my life, but it kept everyone safe while they were here.

[thelowlanders]

Don't have experience with this in particular, but do have FD who needs watched most all the time. Would a baby monitor with camera be of help to your family? Did any of you with experience on this use one?

[jphollen]

We used well placed baby monitors (with permission) for her bedroom (not the camera kind just audio) magnetic door alarms (the kind that beep when doors open and close) to track her. She was still not safe around our then 18 month old dd. Our preteens were not in any danger though she would occasionally self stimulate in front of them (if I went to the bathroom with the baby or put in some laundry with the baby etc). Our fd is in rtc but although we love her deeply it was a rough nine months. In addition to the sexual stuff there were more behaviors.

My heart goes out to the kids and those caring for them. It's tough. A good therapist helps but you can't bring them home with you. If you can manage to get a specialized care rate I am a huge advocate of hiring some help to help supervise!

[basimah]

Do you have the number of someone higher than your casemanager? I know my agency encourages us to go up the chain if we feel like someone is dropping the ball, especially when it comes to a worker not doing their job.

[stevenstwin]

I'm looking at two sides to this - IF this child was abused in a foster home, it is absolutely horrifying that they are not doing more to investigate and press charges. But I'd also hate to assume that since the child is acting out that he WAS abused in a foster home..isn't it possible the sexual abuse happened in the bio home, or somewhere prior to foster placement? When my fs came to me, we were told there was NO history of sexul abuse, but he later told me he WAS molested by an older child in a group home. He'd never told anyone before, so that is why it was not part of his case file.

[klriggins]

The child in question made allegations against the child, and now the sibling is telling me that he witnessed all of it. Told me all the details and everything.

The investigator came out last night, and because all he could tell her about was what he saw happen to his brother, theres nothing they can do because the brother wouldnt tell when they originally investigated it. So since nothing specically happened to him, theres nothing that can be done even though he witnessed everything that happend to his brother. OMG. Nothing they can do????