[Ariah_Zada]

Hi,

I currently have two sibling FC- I had a third from another family that was just RU. My two kids biomom is working her caseplan and doing well in all the areas she needs to be doing well in. The kids will still be in care for another couple months because there are certain conditions that mom needs to maintain for 6-8 months before they go home. But, CW, myself and mom all see them going home. I've developed a good relationship with mom. She trusts me (though part of that trust is that she knows if she ever did anything to hurt one of these kids, I'd report it instantly), talks to me about changes she is making, asks for help, has visits at my home that I supervise, etc. Anyway, she is pregnant and has approached me about adopting her unborn child, as she wants her two young kids back and thinks that it would be best to place this child in another home. Has anybody ever sent two kids home and adopted a sibling from birth? My heart says to proceed with cauthion, my head says I want this baby! Anyone experience this? Any thoughts?

[suzyq18]

I would be very cautious in communications with the mother about this. She is not in the best frame of mind to make any decisions about her unborn child.

On a personal level, of course, your heart is crying out for a child. I am there standing right next to you.

I have been down this road and it did not have a happy ending.

Depending on the kind of relationship you have the case worker. you might want to share this information with them. Just remember they are bound to disclose all of this to the court system.

[athikers]

I would be VERY careful as she could turn around and say you solicited for her unborn baby. In fact, I would advise you against discussing it with her at all. Have her discuss her wants and needs through a third party (the children's worker or whatever)

[Ariah_Zada]

Thanks.....I was right on the same page as you. I said nothing one way or the other to mom (though I wanted to scream yes, I know to proceed with caution), I simply told her that if giving her baby up for adoption was something she was considering, she should talk to the caseworker. She said she would....I don't plan to bring it up again, but the idea is now in my head, KWIM?