[michsm]

I am doing respite care for 5yr old S. I go to pick him up yesterday and he tells me that he has a rash on his behind and they put medicine on it at school.

Well I read his folder last night and there is a note from his teacher. He showed me the rash and I sent him to the nurse. The nurse said there was nothing much she could do for the rash so I sent another student in the bathroom with him to put some cream on it. What!!!!

First of all he shouldn't be showing his behind to anyone but the nurse. Second you sent another student into the bathroom so S could pull down his pants and have another 5yr old put cream on it! Are they insane?

I can't believe a teacher could be so brainless. I can't wait to get to the school this morning.

[timleenettesue]

I have never heard of such a thing. I would be going to the school also. The teacher, nurse and principle would all be getting an ear full. That it the most insane thing EVER!!!!!

[crick]

I'm sure there are laws that prevent the teacher from putting the cream on, not sure about the nurse. But their response to this by having another child participating is absolutely not the right response!

They suspend 5 year olds for a quick innocent kiss on the playground and here they are having them do this??

If I'm the parent of the other 5 year old, I would be absolutely LIVID that they asked my child to touch another child's privates when we spend so much time teaching them NOT to do that.

And of course, I don't blame you for being livid either!

Sure would like to know why the nurse didn't take care of it and if she's not allowed to do anything, why weren't you called??

Wow...just wow!

I hope the principal has a resolution to this.

[hcg]

I wonder if the parents of the other kid heard about this...

[potentialsinglemom]

Originally Posted by hcg

I wonder if the parents of the other kid heard about this...

I know the other parents would not appreciate that. Fparents can not have medicated creams out. Can you imagine what would of happened if another student or adult would of walked in on this innocent situation.

Yeah, I would be up early in the morning to have a side bar with the teacher, nurse, principal and maybe administrator.

[EandDmom]

Please be certain to update us on how this plays out.

[michsm]

I was at the school bright and early this morning. On the way to school I poked around for a little more info on the situation. I found out there were two boys sent into the bathroom with him, one to put cream on each side. I also got the boys names.

I spoke with the school counselor since both the principle and assistant principle were out. Voiced my concerns and opinions to her. I found out this teacher has been asked several times to back off of fs and that he has plenty of people in place to take care of him.

When I left the school I went directly to the dfcs office. They also spoke to the school. I found out later in the day from the cw that one of the parents of the other student had also called to complain. One of the students was very upset by it.

The teacher has been spoken to and will only send students to the nurse from now on. This guy needs a little more than a slap on the wrist. He is very aware of fs issues and he still put three little boys into a very dangerous situation.

When his fdad gets back into town I am going to fill him on everything that took place and suggest to him that if this teacher has such a problem maintaining proper boundries than maybe his teacher should be switched.

I still just can't believe that this guy thought it was perfectly fine to do this.

[Hadley2]

Why would your fs show a teacher a rash on his bum unless the teacher asked to see it? And what would prompt that? If the boy was going to volunteer it without the suggestion, surely a teacher could tell an impulsive child to stop in time before pants are down. Where did this showing supposedly happen? Classroom? Privately? Why? Why did the teacher just happen to have some "cream"? What kind of cream? What instructions did the teacher give the boys? Did the teacher accompany the boys in the bathroom? Listen outside? Watch? I can't think of any "good" answers to these questions....

This whole story has the hair up on my neck--I don't think it was simple stupidity. I think worse. Call me paranoid, I think a CPS investigation is in order.

I'm so very sorry this has happened. It is disturbing and I'm sure that even the boys feel that. I really hope you, the fps, and social services get some answers soon. In the meantime, I would think about keeping the child home until you have a better idea of whether or not this teacher is safe. Better to miss a week or two of kindergarden than put an already vulnerable child back into an iffy situation.

[c.a]

I am agreeing with Hadley. Here in Massachusetts, it would be within my obligationas a mandated reporter to report this as a incident to the DCF investigations unit.

This was totally inappropriate. I would not leave my child in that teacher's class. If you don't have the authority to change his teacher - ask the social worker. If the child has an attorney or GAL, report this incident to them as well. As an attorney I would be a screaming maniac if one of my child clients was treated like this.

Good luck.

[potentialsinglemom]

Originally Posted by michsm

I found out this teacher has been asked several times to back off of fs and that he has plenty of people in place to

So....you are saying that this teacher has had problems with this child in the past?

[Boulderbabe]

Wow. This is so incredibly inappropriate that it borders on the criminal. I think you need to write down everything that happened, and send it in a letter to the school superintendent. This teacher should NOT be in a classroom if this is how bad his judgement is.

[forever14230]

My son has severe excema on his upper thighs and is constantly scratching his legs. Maybe the teacher noticed him scratching and asked what was wrong? In any event, the nurse should have been the only one to apply cream to that area. I'm glad you voiced your concerns and hope that teacher will be reprimanded.

[mom2fabtwins]

Sending 2 (3) 5 yo boys into the bathroom or any place together is the equivilant of handing them matches and saying have fun, just don't burn down the house.
As a mandatory reporter I would contact: school liason, cw, principal, and GAL at the least. I would also want this addressed by the school board and possibly the state.
Any Kindergarten teacher who would allow 3 boys in the bathroom - yet alone ask them to go together to the bathroom, DOES NOT belong teaching. Regardless of the teachers motives - which I am seriously concerned about - this is WRONG

If confidentiality were not such a huge issue, I would be tempted to contact the newspaper - that may be a 45th option if you get no satisfaction elswhere.