[mom-of-1andCounting]

My DH and I are in the process of beginning foster to adopt. We currently have 1 BD and would like to adoptive a AA Boy - 0 - 3yrs. This site has been very supportive & informative, but I am very interested hearing from AA parents that have adopted thru the state. Specifically wait time, birth parent issues, # of children available, tough time adjusting, etc. Thanks.

[makarios79]

Originally Posted by mom-of-1andCounting

My DH and I are in the process of beginning foster to adopt. We currently have 1 BD and would like to adoptive a AA Boy - 0 - 3yrs. This site has been very supportive & informative, but I am very interested hearing from AA parents that have adopted thru the state. Specifically wait time, birth parent issues, # of children available, tough time adjusting, etc. Thanks.

I am a 28 y/o single AA woman in Florida. I was licensed as a foster parent in feb 07 and I adopted 2 biracial boys, currently age 2 & 3. They were 1 & 2 at placement and 1 & 3 at adoption.

My boys got placed with me as Foster only placments that just happened to get TPR'd. They were placed on April 5, 2007 and adopted Nov 07, but that was only because the agency was dragging their feet.

In my county there are lots of kids available for adoption and the vast majority of the time they are adopted by foster parents. Unfortunately, a lot of kids never go back home in my county, so far this year we have had over 400 adoptions. I believe we hold the state record. Out of the 6 kids, I have had in my home, ONLY 1 of them was returned home and he probably should have never been in foster care to begin with.

It would take forever to tell you about about adjustment, parents etc...However if you read through my past posts by clicking on my name and going to my personal page, you can follow my long saga all the way back to the beginning. Also if you would like to read more about the current events of my boys visit our blog: http://farrahlynn.blogspot.com

[deadcalm]

Hi

I'm an AA foster parent in NY. I currently have two AA girls. I am waiting for the mother of my oldest FD to surrender her rights so that I can start the adoption process.

To make a LOOOONG story short, she is 22 months and came into my care when she was only three months. The birth mother returned to her family in FL. After about two months, I recieved a call from the cw stating that the birth mother wants her mother (the baby's grandmother) to have custody of her. So, both the birth mother and the grandmother came to NY to have the courts transfer my FD to FL.

At that time, I decided that after she left I would close my home. I had gotten sooooo attached to her that I could not bear to see her leave and did not want to go thur this ordeal again. I really did not know that you could actually fall so deeply in love with another person child. She became a part of me.

Then three weeks ago the grandmother spoke to the caseworker to let him know that she was still interested in taking custody of her granddaughter. But, last week out of the blue ( a year and half later) the birth mother called me from Florida to let me know that she was going to surrender her rights so that I could adopt her child.

I am still pinching myself. I can't stop kissing my FD. I am soooo happy. I can't stop thanking God!!! Of couse, I would feel even better once her rights are officially surrendered. Eventhough, she sound sincere about her decision.

[mom-of-1andCounting]

Originally Posted by makarios79

I am a 28 y/o single AA woman in Florida. I was licensed as a foster parent in feb 07 and I adopted 2 biracial boys, currently age 2 & 3. They were 1 & 2 at placement and 1 & 3 at adoption.

My boys got placed with me as Foster only placments that just happened to get TPR'd. They were placed on April 5, 2007 and adopted Nov 07, but that was only because the agency was dragging their feet.

In my county there are lots of kids available for adoption and the vast majority of the time they are adopted by foster parents. Unfortunately, a lot of kids never go back home in my county, so far this year we have had over 400 adoptions. I believe we hold the state record. Out of the 6 kids, I have had in my home, ONLY 1 of them was returned home and he probably should have never been in foster care to begin with.

It would take forever to tell you about about adjustment, parents etc...However if you read through my past posts by clicking on my name and going to my personal page, you can follow my long saga all the way back to the beginning. Also if you would like to read more about the current events of my boys visit our blog: http://farrahlynn.blogspot.com

Thanks so much for the reply and insight ... I visited your blog ... looks like your life as an Foster/Adoptive parent has been an adventure ... both blessings and little burdens along the way. I will add you to my blog list ... if you would like to stayed updated on "our Journey", here's our blog ... the Forney's Adoption Journey

[mom-of-1andCounting]

Originally Posted by deadcalm

Hi

I'm an AA foster parent in NY. I currently have two AA girls. I am waiting for the mother of my oldest FD to surrender her rights so that I can start the adoption process.

To make a LOOOONG story short, she is 22 months and came into my care when she was only three months. The birth mother returned to her family in FL. After about two months, I recieved a call from the cw stating that the birth mother wants her mother (the baby's grandmother) to have custody of her. So, both the birth mother and the grandmother came to NY to have the courts transfer my FD to FL.

At that time, I decided that after she left I would close my home. I had gotten sooooo attached to her that I could not bear to see her leave and did not want to go thur this ordeal again. I really did not know that you could actually fall so deeply in love with another person child. She became a part of me.

Then three weeks ago the grandmother spoke to the caseworker to let him know that she was still interested in taking custody of her granddaughter. But, last week out of the blue ( a year and half later) the birth mother called me from Florida to let me know that she was going to surrender her rights so that I could adopt her child.

I am still pinching myself. I can't stop kissing my FD. I am soooo happy. I can't stop thanking God!!! Of couse, I would feel even better once her rights are officially surrendered. Eventhough, she sound sincere about her decision.

Its all in HIS devine plan. I am so happy for you.