[momof9wantingmore]

I am so frustrated with this state I am about to give up.
So, here's the story,we are set up to take medically fragile infants, CW called and asked us to take a baby with a tracheotomy, after we accepted placement we received a call back from the CW stating that the hospital SW was concerned about the placement because we live so rural, we live in a small rural town of about 1700 people, so they decided to place the baby in the bigger town closer to the children's hospital. Less than 10 minutes later the county calls about another placement for us, we accept this placement and about an hour later the first CW calls back about the first baby saying they have changed their minds, I tell her that I have already accepted another baby but will call that SW and make sure it is a go. The SW says it is a for sure and it will be definately be a long term placement. So I call the other worker back, she is disappointed but she understands. Fast forward 5 days, I receive a phone call telling me that they are moving my medically fragile infant to the home of some friends of the parents that are willing to take all four siblings, they are not even foster parents and have no training for the baby, plus they will have the three others. The SW worker states that she knows the baby should stay with me but the parents are willing to go to treatment if these friends are able to take placement of the kids. What??? I am so frustrated with this kind of logic. I feel so bad about the placement I turned down, I am going to call her SW tomorrow and see if they found a placement for her or if she is still in the hospital. Just needed to vent.

[CaddoRose]

That makes no sense at all. Why is it that you had to do all the stuff to become certified as a foster parent and they can move the baby to a house that hasn't done all of that? This sounds so crazy. I wonder if the other family really knows what the status of the baby is and are they trained to take care of a medically fragile baby? Since when do the bio's get to dictate what they will or will not do to get their kids back? Too bad you don't know who the CASA or GAL is. Maybe they could shed some light it. Could you call the CASA office and find out?

[EandDmom]

That is crazy.

[nesesweetgirl]

Sorry to hear that Momof9 and I know what you mean. We also take in medical fragil but they are always calling with healthy kids and then I hear that they are placing babies in institution or having to stay in hosptials b/c they don't have homes for them.
I am slowly learning to live with the fact that 'Yes' there are rules but it is the SW that decides if they want to follow them and that we are their oncall babysitters.
I have thought about quitting a couple times but I think I'm not doing the kids (when we get them) any good and I sure don't want to give the SW anymore reason to say she's overworked b/c she don't have enough FPs. And I feel bad for the SWs that are great at their job and do it for the kids not the bp, to get a bad rap b/c of the ones that don't.