[RobinKay]

Originally Posted by ProspectiveSingleMom

I agree that it may be worth fighting for, if you feel up to it. Isn't there a federal law that race can't be used as a reason to not let a family adopt a child?

Yes. Contact the American Civil Liberties Union. ACLU. Find them online or in the phone book.

[committedsoul]

Thanks so much for your kind thoughts...

I'm just now able to write back because I have an unbelievable amount of anger towards those that are allowing such an injustice to take place...

My biggest fear is that when I go to NJ to appear in court to answer to everything that is going on here, I will not return with Jonathan. I fear that they will order him to remain in NJ...

I'm so ANGRY... WHY do I have to answer to something that hasn't been proven?

An investigator from the NJ Law Guardians office FLEW here today... he spent about an hour in my house... He spent more time on the flight than he did in my house... Talk about a waste of money... BTW, he said he had no concerns...

JDs caseworker was supposed to come yesterday. She sat on the runway in Newark for 4 hours before the flight was cancelled. She and her supervisor have been extremely supportive.

I flat out told them that if their plan was to remove JD on Monday that they PLEASE let me know. Just so I can prepare myself (how do you do that?) and try to prepare him... pack him a few things... They said that their intention is NOT to remove JD... They even discussed that if an allegation were substantiated, getting a waiver so we could continue the adoption... They have no concerns...

I just need to get through Monday.

I'm trying to be positive... everyone says, the longer it goes on, the better it is for me on appeal (if I have to). They say that how can they substantiate an allegation of abuse and take over 4 months to do it? It would get tossed on appeal... How could they remove one child (age 16) and leave the other 3 (age 1,2,and 3 at the time)? How could a well seasoned investigator tell you that you could not record the conversation?

Everyone also fails to realize that all the children that made the alleged statements all have one common denominator... the racist caseworker that I have been having issues with this entire time. ALL of the children that made these so-called allegations have the same caseworker...

The thing is that if they take one child, they have to take both. They can't have a good enough reason to remove one child without having a valid reason to remove both. If they take Jon, I will probably relinquish Brandon because I would not be able to take Brandon asking for Jon over and over... I don't think I could do it. It would not only be a great loss for me, but a great loss for them... they would lose each other... and they are VERY close.

What would I do with all their things?

I just don't want to think about it, but I just feel like if I expect the worst I won't be disappointed. Everyone tells me that things won't happen that way and I worry too much. I'm their parent. How could I NOT worry? I've had the rug pulled out from under me WAY too much on the past few months...

I just have to trust God and put it in His hands and leave it there... If I don't leave it, then that means that I don't trust Him... I DO trust Him... I just feel like I can't help but wonder if this will be the last weekend that my family will be whole...

Thank you for your prayers... they are greatly appreciated.

[EZ2Luv]

(((HUGS)) My prayers will be with you. I wish I could take all your fears and anxiety away and make everything alright. Just by your post it is so obvious how much love you have. You are Mommy, that is all there is to it.. A person would have to be blind and oblivious to reality not to see this.

EZ

[mom2behappy]

im sending you hugs an I @ will fast and pray for you this coming monday. those are both your sons and I believe god knows your hear when it comes to both boys. I wont tell you not to worry because that would be like telling you not to breathe what I will say is to enjoy your boys hold them hug them kiss them continue to tell them how much you love them. keep God first and things will turn out ok

[athikers]

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine they will be able to remove him based on an unproven allegation. I understand your concern of trying to explain to the "brother" what happened to JD. I am living that right now with my two that are very close in age and then one who is here is having a very, very hard time.

[Hadley2]

It's all horrible. I echo those who urge you to get help. It doesn't sound as if NJ wants anything to do with anything that would disrupt JDs placement. They've probably seen many unfounded allegations against fps.

Forwarding the allegation would be libel, not slander. In legal terms, they "published" the allegation. They may get away with it if it is considered a good-faith report of suspected abuse--same as if a neighbor called in a report because she a child said something or she saw bruises or whatever. Good-faith reporters can't be held responsible if there is no finding.

I hope it all works out and the boys stay with you.

[Boulderbabe]

What's with the crazy allegations? Who made them?

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. And even sorrier for the kids.

[committedsoul]

Originally Posted by Hadley2

Forwarding the allegation would be libel, not slander. In legal terms, they "published" the allegation. They may get away with it if it is considered a good-faith report of suspected abuse--same as if a neighbor called in a report because she a child said something or she saw bruises or whatever. Good-faith reporters can't be held responsible if there is no finding.

I hope it all works out and the boys stay with you.

Thanks to all of you for your prayers and good wishes...

Hadley, they sent this to NJ when in fact, none of the allegations mention JD... NOT ONE...

I'm feeling much better now and I am at peace with whatever decisions will be made. It's in God's hands now and I'm leaving it there.

Committed

[irelady10]

committed soul...may God grant you the serenity to accept the things you cannot change, the courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

You and your SONS are in my prayers.

Eileen

[hesabanana]

Committed,
You and your boys are in my thoughts and prayers. I fought the good fight and lost....but I did everything in my power to win, and that is what allows me to sleep at night. Don't give up, do whatever you need to do so that you know in your heart you tried everything.
Give them Hell on Monday....we'll all be thinking of you.
Get a lawyer, call the ACLU, do whatever you can.

[mom2behappy]

i prayed for your family thru the day yesterday asking god to bring you and your sons thru this nonsense as only he could

[finallyamom0310]

Hope all went well yesterday? I have been reading this post since it started hoping well for you and your kids. Please update us when you have time.

Hugs coming your way.

[athikers]

Any update? I have been thinking about you and your boys!

[missw005]

Me too - am hoping and praying for the best!!!!!

Sandy

[mom2behappy]

they decided to finalize on JD while committed was back in jersey and she's so busy celebrating she hasn't had time to log on and let us know her good news. come on committed log on please we are all worried about you