[Luvie]

I thought this might be a little interesting to read and helpful to new Foster Parents. Im wondering after your children leave where do you stand with them. Do you still get to see/hear about them. Maybe get to see them or recieve pictures.

I don't care how long a child is in my home, I still can not help but become attached to them and love them. I consider myself to be very lucky. I have had 6 wonderful children. Each and everyone with diffrent personalities, from wanting hugs to not wanting me to touch them. I know that it is possible that one day I will get that placement that I never hear about or see again when they leave my home. To me that is the most scary thing. Once they leave my home they or someone else is always told if they need me, Im there.

I will start with D&D, my two angels. I established a good relationship with their mother. We talked on the phone and visited on visitation days. Their great grandma was also always there. Mom tried very hard to get her girls back and I'll never forget the day she finally did. This case is very hard for me. 2 weeks after she got them back she passed away. Great Grandma kept the promises that the mother made and I get visits whenever I wish. I also get pictures and updates from the SW.

J went to his father. I also see J alot and recieve pictures. He has a great father that loves him. He and I also established a great relationship.

B, S, and S are with their aunt. They have been gone 6 days and I seen them yesterday. I have established a great relationship with the aunt through many phone calls.

So even though it often is that the child is RU it dosn't mean that it always is the end. Im often referred to as "My Luvie", Except Luvie is replaced by my real name, after they return home. I often hear their parents say "there is your Luvie". I seen D&D about 4 months ago, J 2 months ago, and B,S, and S yesterday. They all are my lights. Now if only my home will be filled with new light.

[littlemansmom1]

My sweet baby A was our miracle baby who pulled through a very awfull abuse we picked her up from the hospital and had a very medical fragile baby at first, we got to be blessed by having five months with her before she moved on to permantly be with her grandma forever. We have had her stay with us three times now and it is amazing last week we got to have her here for a week while gma went on vacation. They refer to us as her other family and have made it very clear they always want us to be a part of her life. It is so awesome to get to watch her grow and we will love her forever.

[Robbin]

We babysat for our first foster daughter for a few months after she was returned to dad & stepmom (she was taken from mom), but have had little contact since then. She did come to our church's youth program one time, but then her stepmom wouldn't let her return b/c she doesn't really want her around us ().

Two of our foster daughters now come to our church with their dad (we introduced them to the church, and he remained after girls were reunited w/mom about 5 or 6 years ago). The older just graduated in June, and dad said part of who she is now is thanks to the work you did with her

I will occasionally talk to our adoption worker about the one girl who was put in a psychiatric facility and get some updates...poor thing had been raped before we got her at age 7, and had major issues.

Our 18 year old former foster son is coming to visit this weekend, for the first time since he moved out a year ago.

One we've never heard from again, and another I might have heard about him 2 times since he left 7 years ago.

[tinatyme]

Of the 9 placements we have had
2 we adopted
2 we are currently fostering
1 we stopped by his daycare a year after his reunification (with the permission of his dad) and saw him.
1 has just been reunified with her grandmother and we wanted to let some time pass. Her grandmother has said that we can visit and go on playdates. We'll see
3 we have not seen again because of parent/grandparent choice or distance

[Sam-N-Tony]

Of my now total 7 foster kiddos -

1 - I still have now going on a year...
1 - Brother of the one above, I get updates and have not seen him since he moved in May to a Therapeutic, hopefully will be able to visit him soon. Wanted him to work on some of his emotional issues and be in a better place before seeing him again. I do get updates from CW.
2 - Left to a relative placement, never heard from again.
1 - Left back home to Dad, sent a really nice letter but have not and probably will not see her.
1 - Will sooner or later be leaving to family but I have formed a great relationship with this family and hope to get updates and some visits i the future.
1 - I still have.

[ms_mckenna]

We are still really early but out of 9 placements:
4 we have never heard anything more from and do not expect to.
2 who went to a grandma I talk to via email and can visit when I want.
1 went to aunt I talk to by phone and can visit anytime
1 left yesterday and his cousin who is his caregiver has already sent me an email update about him.
1 we still have in our home.

[athikers]

Our first two - we don't see but we occasionally get updates. Our two little respite/emergency babies we see around town, mostly by accident. Our four respite kids we see around town and do respite for periodically. Teeter's older sis we see from time to time when coming and going with Teeter. Teeter we still have 2 days a weeks. I don't think we will ever see either of them again if they end up going permanently with family. And, Pixie is here and hopefully we will never have to worry about if we see her again

[RobinKay]

What a sweet idea, I loved reading these posts. I wish any of you had been ds foster parents.