[shycar]

So today I got a shocking phone call. I should not be surprised, but I was. Punky sw calls me this morning to see how visit was this weekend. I told her it went well. So we confirmed that tomorrow morning Punky will be going home. She calls me back 20 min later. She said that Punky will be moved next week. I guess dad missed some UA and classes, that they are doing a surprise hair folicle test. She thinks dad just did not have a ride and did not make it, but she rather be safe then sorry. I get a call 20 min later. Her move is on HOLD. WHAT?? Well I guess sw talked to step-mom, they are getting a divorce and he (dad) needs to be out of the house in a week. Sw does not know yet the story as to why. So now we have to wait the hair folicle test done, for dad to find a home, and find a daycare provider (step mom was planning to stay home with Punky). So she will be with us a month or two more. Here is sw and my concern. The reason why dad did well was becouse his wife made sure he stayed clean and went to all his classes and do what he needed. Sw is worried now that she is not around he will give up. Im so dissapointed. He was doing so well. At least Im glad this happened before the move though. Im also happy Punky gets to stay with us a little longer.

[gdaisy]

Well it is better that they find out now then later... Our little guy went home after a transition period of a month and the mom had to keep clean and attend classes all while having him around... 3 days her 4 days us.....

[Withay]

Oh Shycar - how emotionally wrenching for you all. Thank you for being willing to keep Punky safe through all this. I know that it will be a roller coaster, but I also believe that, from what I read between the lines of your posts, that you are more than up to handling it. I'll be praying for her daddy.

[xxsurroundedbyxy]

Whew! A lot can happen in an hour huh? LOL

Sounds like Punky has a much higher power than DCFS looking out for her

[AmahMama]

That "Higher Power" was working his magic for Punky. What a turnaround!!! Sounds like something happened to go from a visit toward RU to divorce!!! Good thing you are on such solid ground to be able to handle the news, news, and the updated news!!! He knows what He'd doing - and hopefully BioD will get it together - and keep it that way!!

Good luck!

[daveandmina]

What I find most interesting is how the cw didn't seem to have been up to date on anything until it was time to give you a phone call re. ru. Shouldn't she have known about missed classes and such before there were plans for Punky to be moved??

Anyway, most important is that this little one has love & stability while her bparents get it together. Thank you for being there for her.

[ranoutofnames]

I've had this similar scenario happen so often (hours or a few days before RU it falls through) that I no longer start transitioning the kids belongings to their family home until the day they actually return.

If you had daycare hope they hadn't already filled the slot. I once had a daycare so happy my fs was leaving that when his RU fell through a week before the RU they stated they refused to keep him past the notice I had already given.

Isn't it amazing how chaos and uncertainty is the way of life of us foster parents! Punky is so blessed to have you as much as I'm sure she blesses your home.

[shycar]

Well I got a call from sw. Dad has dissapeared. I know that he was kicked out his home and probably looking somewhere to live, but sw does not understand why he will not answer his cell phone or return her call. Now mom has reappeared. LOL. I swear this is crazy . So she reappeared after 4 months of no where to be found and will start visits next week again.

Dad can not have visit till he gets tested, so who knows when that will be. Crazy crazy.

[athikers]

And the rollercoaster continues...

[bluebird38]

It's insane what these people put their children through.

Fostering sure can't get boring!

bluebird38