[EandDmom]

Ok first question foster daughter saw me take my medicine the other day and said is that your medicine and I said yes and she said my mommy takes pills. Now I know they were pulled for drugs so my question is do I tell the caseworker what she said or not. Maybe she only saw her take actual medicine I don't want to look like a paranoid person to the caseworker. My instinct is telling me just tell caseworker what she said and let her sort it out. Then again obviously they know she is/was on drugs as that is why we have the kids. What should I do? I've been going back and forth about this all day. I feel like I'm being a nervous nelly tattle tale. But then I think well they may want this info for court.
Second question how the heck do you make a signature line? I've looked every where and tried to figure it out but I'm computer stupid. Thanks

[vegaschristina]

#1 - You are a mandated reporter, so go on and tell the CW. You can even say that you're not sure if it was actual medicine or drugs, but you wanted to let them know...just in case.

#2 - scroll up and in the 2 green lines on the top left side is a button called USER CP...click on that and then edit signature.

[EandDmom]

thanks for both answers..that is pretty much word for word what I figured I would say.

[Robbin]

I always share what the children say, and also the context in which they said it (you were taking yours, she volunteered info). Like you said, let the cw sort it out.

Also, if you will be supervising any visits with the bios (I don't know your specific situation), I always say to the bios, usually when we have a team meeting with bios & cw, that I am obligated to report everything you say to me, and everything I see you do to the cw. If you don't want the cw to know, then please don't tell me or do it in front of me. I can't do one of these, "...don't tell the cw, but...." Because on one hand, you are trying to develop a relationship with the bio and don't want to be a snitch, but on the other, you cannot enable them in whatever issue they have.

[EandDmom]

They haven't had a visitation yet mom has to pass 2 drug tests before judge will let her see them. Hopefully, she will get to see them next week. Thats a great idea though. I am really hoping I don't have to do anything other than take the kids to the meeting. I did leave a message with the caseworker saying here is what I was doing here is what she said you can do what you want with the info. Their advocate is coming for a visist in the morning I'll go ahead and tell her about it then also.

[c.a]

I agree with Christina and Robin. Also - if bio mom ever takes so much as an aspirin during a visit, foster child is likely to say: "Foster mommy takes pills too" and you know bio mom will try to report you for "taking drugs" in front of the child. Your caseworker will appreciate already having an answer for bio's complaint.

Good luck.

[xxsurroundedbyxy]

I probably wouldn't say anything. Previous FS' mom is a known drug user and her current drug of choice is her prescription meds. She can test positive all she wants for those and with her Rx they can't do a thing. She can OD and get scripts from several docs and misuse all she wants. So to tell them that he said she was taking pills would have been a laugh for them....we all knew it. Now, when he told me that she put needles in her arm and a friend of hers left her needles laying around their home I passed that info along. He could have been hurt of infected with something. But pill popping is hard to prove since she could have been taking a multivitamin each day.

Kim

[EandDmom]

Originally Posted by c.a

I agree with Christina and Robin. Also - if bio mom ever takes so much as an aspirin during a visit, foster child is likely to say: "Foster mommy takes pills too" and you know bio mom will try to report you for "taking drugs" in front of the child. Your caseworker will appreciate already having an answer for bio's complaint.

Good luck.

I agree and thought of this also its one of the reasons I decided to go ahead and report it. I'm sure its not going to set off any alarms anywhere I just wanted to cover my butt too. Hope that doesn't sound selfish but I've read enough on here to know one day I will get called to the table about something I am just trying to not give them anything to use for it.