[SHAMROX]

Tomorrow I take my son to his sexual assault interview. I forgot to ask the detective what I should tell him about where we're going. What do you guys think? I thought maybe just saying that its a doctor's appt like when we go see the therapist. He's comfy with the therapist so I thought that might make him comfy for this too....not sure.

Can't wait till that's over either. They will talk to him alone, and I also write up a statement...then they talk to the birth mother. I think she'll deny it but the detective said "you'd be surprised how many people confess", so we'll see.

Aside from not knowing what to tell him about where we're going, I'm wondering what kinds of things they will ask him?

Thanks!

[EandDmom]

I have no experience or knowledge just wanted to say good luck to you and to him.

[kayb]

i sent you a pm

[xxsurroundedbyxy]

I requested a plain-clothes detective (my FS would have been petrified of a police officer--biomom had him convinced HE would be arrested too for some of her actions and drug use). I also requested a female as he was very untrusting of males (including my husband for the first 3-4 months he was here).

I asked to be able to call first on the way there and park in back use the backdoor.

They did everything I asked. The female detective met us and took FS right into interview room. He never really realized he was at the police dept.

I was honest though and told him that he had to tell his story to someone besides me. I told him they WOULD believe him and to just tell the truth. I told him it was important because that person wanted to write it down and maybe record his voice so that it would help other kids. He seemed ok with this.

Good Luck!

Kim

[SHAMROX]

Yes, I know my son would not trust an officer in uniform. He's told me many times about how "M told me that cops take you to jail" etc.

The female detective tomorrow will be in plain clothes. I'm not sure if he'll trust a woman more...he's geared towards men, but there was an allegation about the mom's boyfriend that was unfounded too.

We're actually not going to the PD, thankfully. It's going to be at a place that is set up for foster kids to visit their parents...they have an interview room there. I've heard its very much like a house.

Thanks everyone.

[proudmum]

SHAMROX,,, my thoughts are with you and your little guy..
best wishes
Proudmum

[quiescentfury]

I am not sure how old your FS is, but with all out FC we use a team concept. We start this from when they first come into care. We Say we are on their team, the SWs are on their team, their counselors are on the team. If an investigator needs to be involved we add them to the team also. We really hype up how importnant the kids are to have such a big team. The kids are usually really excited about their team and all this people care so much about them. We always stress the importance of telling the truth to the people on their team.