[timleenettesue]

Our adopted son's biom said she couldn't get pregnant after her first when she was a teenager (which she does not have, her mother has custody). Then she had our son almost 9 years later. We were not even looking for a baby, but God had other plans. He was placed with us at 7 1/2 months old (that was in 2005). In 2006 she gave birth again, but made a private adoption plan with a family friend. In 2007 she had our little sweet pea two days after Christmas and DHS called us to pick her up from the hospital. Which we did and we hope to finalize her adoption by the end of the year.

We also have another sib group that we are adopting and their bioparents are still young enough to have more children.

After we adopt these three we will have 7 children. Five that will still be living at home. I don't know how many more my husband will let me keep, because I would keep them all. I'm sure there will be at least one more baby born as a sib to our two sib groups as all the bioparents are still in their late 20's and early 30's. I'm not sure what we are going to do (but I know what I would like to do - hubby needs a little more convincing than me).

I vote for a sterlization program! It's not fair to the unborn children to be subjected to abuse and neglect because the system and the parents won't put a stop to it.

[Mominalberta]

OUr daughers bio mom just had a baby and as far as my knowledge is taking care of it. Shocked me. we were hoping to have the child if it comes in care. Here in Alberta they will only call if the plan is adoption. So maybe the baby is in care, who knows.

[NotAMomYet]

We don’t have our kids (yet [foster adopt]) but we’ve talked about taking future siblings if they are in need of a home and we would certainly do it if we could. I’d hate to see siblings split up.

That said, I DO believe that someone can change their ways and raise a child in a healthy, functional home even after they’ve had a child removed (TPR) in the past. While I know that some people are/will be habitual offenders and will never be suitable parents, sometimes it takes the TPR to make them see the light and clean up their act. I have a very good friend who lost her first two children to foster care then later adoption. She now has two girls in high school who are thriving – you would never guess that she used to have troubles. She learned her lesson the hard way and she pays the price for that, knowing that she messed up years before.

I would much rather hear that the mom of my adopted children finally cleaned up her act and was able to care for new children. Sadly, I know that my friend is the exception, not the rule …

[Yash]

When I went to meet my daughter for the very first time before we walked into the foster home, the adoption worker told me there was a rumor that birth mom was pregnant. My daughter was 6 1/2 months at the time.

Our first visit with my daughter's lawyer's investigator, she asked me if I would be interested in adopting the new baby. I said I would be open.

The new baby was born on March 7 and birth mom got to take her home. So far so good and I'm hoping mom stays on the straight and narrow for her sake and this baby's. It looks like 12 times the charm.


My friend's daughter's bio mother was trying to make a deal with DCF. She had hoped if she allowed my friend and her husband to adopt the baby, who just turned 1, then DCF would let her keep the one she's pregnant with. DCF isn't having it.

The CW says he will be alerting the local hospitals so the baby can be taken directly from the hospital.

My friend asked the CW's supervisor what was going to happen with the new baby. The supervisor said if mom was having unsupervised visits, then she could keep the new baby. Well on Aug 26, they are going to court to terminate mom's rights and the new baby is due Aug 27.

Sadly no one is telling mom this because they don't want her going to another county or another state to have the new baby.

My friend is rearranging furniture to make room for a second crib and getting the infant girl clothes ready.


My daughter's adoption which will be finalized this fall will probably be my last one from the state, but I will keep my license for a few years just in case.

[carlychan]

My fs biomom is due anyday with number 2. My FS isn't even 1 yet! I am all ready to take the new baby if need be, but she is going to Mexico (at least she says). We'll see what happens

[BethanyB]

While I know that some people are/will be habitual offenders and will never be suitable parents, sometimes it takes the TPR to make them see the light and clean up their act.

I totally agree to this when a parent has already lost a child to the system and then has another one at another point in time.

What I don't understand is when a parent has a child in foster care going to adoption because she can't work her caseplan but gets to keep a new baby. If you can't work your caseplan to be seen fit enough to raise the baby that was taken from you, how can you be fit enough to raise another baby at the same time? You are either fit to parent or not fit to parent. How can you be both? That is what confuses me.

[tinatyme]

Originally Posted by NotAMomYet

That said, I DO believe that someone can change their ways and raise a child in a healthy, functional home even after they’ve had a child removed (TPR) in the past

Possibly . . . but I think after the 7th, 8th or 12th child has been removed it is not likely and I wish that there could be something done to prevent it because ultimately the one who suffers the most is the child and there is just no reason.