[stevenstwin]

sorry for the double, but I was hoping it might get a response a little faster if I post in both places. I sure can't find anything relevant online:
Former FS, age 17, told me today he's worried because he's having problems with his "parts". Got drunk, got in a fight, got kicked. Sadly, I confess that I got a little distracted by the drinking and fighting, and didn't give this enough further thought 'till I got home! Anyway, he said that he was injured and things aren't "working" properly. I described what a ruptured testicle might be like, and he thought that fit...but went on to say that "IT doesn't work anymore- I can still go pee, but it doesn't "work" and it sort of hurts". Okay, so at least I think we're both talking about the same thing now. I thought maybe the injury had causes some sort of internal swelling that was the problem? But he says this happened 2 weeks ago. He's got a doctor's appointment to see about it - but not until the 11th. Should I encourage him to go to the hospital emergency room right away? I don't know if it is possible he sustained some sort of permanent injury - and if so, I'm not sure what good it will do to go in two weeks after the trauma, anyway. But as always this kid is SO COMPLETELY CLUELESS about anything sexual. He told me he's been worrying he has AIDS. I assured him this is NOT a syptom of that, and according to him he isn't sexually active anyway, so he's obviously a little unclear about a whole lot of stuff. I reminds me of when he was 14 and was worried that the infamous "it" was broken because it leaks at night. AFter I explained THAT one, he became worried that if that kept happening he'd use up all his "stuff" and never be able to have kids. Hoo boy. So- back to the possible penile injury, any advice?

[RobinKay]

Originally Posted by stevenstwin

sorry for the double, but I was hoping it might get a response a little faster if I post in both places. I sure can't find anything relevant online:
Former FS, age 17, told me today he's worried because he's having problems with his "parts". Got drunk, got in a fight, got kicked. Sadly, I confess that I got a little distracted by the drinking and fighting, and didn't give this enough further thought 'till I got home! Anyway, he said that he was injured and things aren't "working" properly. I described what a ruptured testicle might be like, and he thought that fit...but went on to say that "IT doesn't work anymore- I can still go pee, but it doesn't "work" and it sort of hurts". Okay, so at least I think we're both talking about the same thing now. I thought maybe the injury had causes some sort of internal swelling that was the problem? But he says this happened 2 weeks ago. He's got a doctor's appointment to see about it - but not until the 11th. Should I encourage him to go to the hospital emergency room right away? I don't know if it is possible he sustained some sort of permanent injury - and if so, I'm not sure what good it will do to go in two weeks after the trauma, anyway. But as always this kid is SO COMPLETELY CLUELESS about anything sexual. He told me he's been worrying he has AIDS. I assured him this is NOT a syptom of that, and according to him he isn't sexually active anyway, so he's obviously a little unclear about a whole lot of stuff. I reminds me of when he was 14 and was worried that the infamous "it" was broken because it leaks at night. AFter I explained THAT one, he became worried that if that kept happening he'd use up all his "stuff" and never be able to have kids. Hoo boy. So- back to the possible penile injury, any advice?

You are so right to be concerned. I think you are "on it" to suggest the emergency room--if nothing else, you get a referral to a specialist. That might take longer if you started with the GP.

My dh has talked with me about what he has learned through the military with all the physical training they do--it really sounds serious.

I hope this doesn't bankrupt you! Will be sending you positive thoughts--let us know the outcome.

[stevenstwin]

Originally Posted by RobinKay

You are so right to be concerned. I think you are "on it" to suggest the emergency room--if nothing else, you get a referral to a specialist. That might take longer if you started with the GP.

My dh has talked with me about what he has learned through the military with all the physical training they do--it really sounds serious.

I hope this doesn't bankrupt you! Will be sending you positive thoughts--let us know the outcome.

Thank you, Robin - I was beginning to fear people would think the post was a bad joke! ;-) At least money isn't a concern - although the wait time to see a specialist might be. We're in Alberta, so medical care is mostly covered..and A's legal guardian is Children's Services, so they can cover anything else. I just can't imagine what could be the cause of the "difficulties" 2 weeks later - I'm wondering if there is scar tissue of some sort? In which case he'll probably need surgery? Poor kid. poor dumb, irresponsible kid! My husband says that he's heard it truly is possible to permanently "break" the penis..I guess damage to blood vessels inside?

[RobinKay]

Originally Posted by stevenstwin

Thank you, Robin - I was beginning to fear people would think the post was a bad joke! ;-) At least money isn't a concern - although the wait time to see a specialist might be. We're in Alberta, so medical care is mostly covered..and A's legal guardian is Children's Services, so they can cover anything else. I just can't imagine what could be the cause of the "difficulties" 2 weeks later - I'm wondering if there is scar tissue of some sort? In which case he'll probably need surgery? Poor kid. poor dumb, irresponsible kid! My husband says that he's heard it truly is possible to permanently "break" the penis..I guess damage to blood vessels inside?

Even a little swelling inside can cause the problems--I am very concerned that he says it hurts. There may be an infection--I know you said he's not sexually active, but--we are not with our older boys 24/7. Maybe the emergency room can get you a quicker appointment with a urologist? (hope I spelled that right )

I have read posters who have some medical background-hope one will reply to you soon.

Will be thinking of you-

[xxsurroundedbyxy]

You can "break" a penis. It is actually broken blood vessels and will need to be seen and treated. Please go to the ER so that they can get him into a urologist immediately is necessary.

Kim

[kimb1005]

DH had a problem with his male parts being achy...turns out he had a UTI with swelling--fairly uncommon in males but can happen.
I would also urge him to go to ER to get it checked out. If nothing else, it will set his mind at ease (though it does sound like it needs treatment)

[EZ2Luv]

Please have him go to the ER. This is not something that should wait. At least at the ER they will be able to assess and see if there are any injuries that require immediate attention. The ER will be able to make a refferral to see a specialist ASAP. Seriously, you don't want to wait any longer Than he already have. I found that if boys complain about their private parts it is usually something that is really bothering them. Have it checked out and hopefully it won't be anything serious or anything that will cause long term damage.

EZ

[vegaschristina]

I agree, 11 more days to see a doctor could, if there is an issue, cause permanent damage. I'd hate to think that he'd never have a normal sex life because of waiting to see a doctor, ya know?

[tiggerATD]

See a dr asap....my brother was kicked when he wa 17....was embarrassed and didnt tell anyone for awhile....till pain got to bad to hide it....the kick had caused one of his testicles to "strangle" itself and had to be removed....fortunatly he still had the other one and went on to father 2 wonderful kids

[stevenstwin]

Originally Posted by tiggerATD

See a dr asap....my brother was kicked when he wa 17....was embarrassed and didnt tell anyone for awhile....till pain got to bad to hide it....the kick had caused one of his testicles to "strangle" itself and had to be removed....fortunatly he still had the other one and went on to father 2 wonderful kids

That's scary stuff, all right! I'm just totally puzzled about why his pain and dysfunctionality would be in the penis, rather than the testicles. Anyhoo...he says he "might" let me take him to the emergency room today, and I obviously can't compell him to go (he's my former fs, I have no current legal authority). but I'll do my darndest to encourage timely action. Frankly, I'm impressed enough that he actually made an appointment at all! At this point I'm just hoping that maybe there really ins't much wrong since he doesn't seem to be in a lot of pain - and he's usually a big wuss and will moan and cry over the littlest things. Mind you...you know these AD kids- they can make the biggest fuss over a tiny scrape and then be so cavalier about something serious...

[ranoutofnames]

I find it encouraging he came to you at all considering it wasn't but a couple of weeks ago the relationship was so strained even his friends were harrassing you.

Guess it just goes to show sometimes we have to step back and they will come to us when they need us.

Hope he agreed to go to the emergency room yesterday.

[stevenstwin]

Originally Posted by ranoutofnames

I find it encouraging he came to you at all considering it wasn't but a couple of weeks ago the relationship was so strained even his friends were harrassing you.

Guess it just goes to show sometimes we have to step back and they will come to us when they need us.

Hope he agreed to go to the emergency room yesterday.

Yes, you are right! I posted on the Special Needs board two days ago, but didn't really explain it here. I had come to the conclusion that he was DONE and I was never seeing him again - you know all the stuff that was happening. Then on Monday, totally out of the blue, and in the middle of the night, I got a text message asking if I was awake. Of course I didn't get it until the next day - so I texted back and asked if that really was intended for me...and he writes back to say that he really needed to talk to someone who "understands" him, and that he didn't think I'd want to talk to him because he's been such a jerk... So I took him out for breakfast, and I don't think there's even anything "big" going on in his life, so it didn't seem like he was desperate or just needed something..but he was saying that he really, really misses us and wants to re-build our relationship. So, we'll see how it goes, I guess. He's texted each day since just to touch base. He still isn't making any better life choices overall, though. Funny thing, though - I really thought I'd never see him again, and here he is calling me mom and saying "i love you".

[straightblues]

As a man, I would highly recommend an ER visit immediately. I played football and have been hit in the groin numerous times over the years and have never experienced anything like you are describing. Take ths is serious. Get it looked at and fixed before things get worse. This could have all kinds of long term problems of the psychologicalnature if it doesn't get repaired. This is not a little thing. Not to mention the fun he will miss out on.

BTW, glad to hear you are back on his good side.